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Rank: Member Joined: 8/12/2009 Posts: 21
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After a long time of panic,the goodnews is that today i went for HIV test and it was -ve.Now there is hope for the unborn child and the mother.Next time i see someone on my doorstep knocking,i will just dial 999 .Infact am thinking of telling my gal/boy that the father passed away .Just longing to cut that link completely
Life is more stict than a teacher,a teacher teaches a lesson&takes an exam but life does the reverse!
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/4/2008 Posts: 1,289 Location: Nairobi
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Thou shalth not lie.
You are a christian. Confess.
Baada ya dhiki,faaraja
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/19/2008 Posts: 4,268
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The problem is between you and the father of the kid. Not the father and the kid. You can only forget about him if he does not want to be involved with the kid.... but in any case,you will still remember him coz of the kid. As i had told you,the earlier you learn to stop hating him (am not saying you love him either),the better for you.
Is it true that if you have bitterness when expectant the kid will be a sad,bitter kid?
“Money frees you from doing things you dislike. Since I dislike doing nearly everything,money is handy.” - ~ Groucho Marx.......................
BUT
.......................“I’m living so far beyond my income that we may almost be said to be living apart.” - e e cummings
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/5/2009 Posts: 181
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Phew !!
You now have a new lease of life.
Strive to thrive in this life. I really was touched by your story the other day.
N/B Whenever a man strips naked next time cry for help !
The Hedonist
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/4/2008 Posts: 1,289 Location: Nairobi
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Ladies,
How do you feel when you have to live with someone who wanted your child aborted?
Baada ya dhiki,faaraja
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Rank: Member Joined: 8/12/2009 Posts: 21
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@Wendz,i get your point loud and clear.There are somethings that diminishes with time.Honestly speaking right now am far much better that how i was one month ago,when i used to cry in my closet like a baby.After sharing my story in sk and some very true friends,i hove gotten some strength to push on.But amazingly most of this close friend advises to cut off the link with this guy which i agree with mostly after recommending me for an abortion,now next year the baby will be born and am sure the father shall want to know whether the baby went into the dustbin or is still alive,how can you cut such a link?Am thinking of changing my the place where i stay but still a serious person can still trace you in this City.Just wondering!
Life is more stict than a teacher,a teacher teaches a lesson&takes an exam but life does the reverse!
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Rank: Member Joined: 8/4/2009 Posts: 136
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good for you'u dodged a bullet. be very careful from now on.
as u have been told,the sooner u learn to not hate ur baby daddy (despite all) the better. u dont need th load of bearin a grudge.
thou shall not lie to your child. its cruel and selfish. just dont disclose th abortion part.
who has watched how met ur mom 4,th episode bout naked man? used to wonder if it could happen in real life till new.member gave an answer... ha ha ha
You have a right to your opinion.
Allow me mine!
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Rank: Member Joined: 8/24/2007 Posts: 18
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That is good news. Be sure to keep the door closed to naked men
Strike while the iron is hot
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Rank: Member Joined: 6/4/2008 Posts: 394
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'Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.' 'There are plenty more fish in the sea,I just don't have a very effective net' Doors of opportunity don't just open , they have to be unlocked & it's up to you to turn the knob.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 10/6/2007 Posts: 1,177 Location: Nairobi - Kenya
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new member am happy for you have found consolation of your health..praise be to God! you now got two more tests to go.. to forgive & to be truthful to your kid.. implement all to the letter and you shall triumph! you've heard me.. When you hear what I say, you will not understand. When you see what I do, you will not comprehend
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/26/2009 Posts: 1,793
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a deep breath won't do you any harm.....let's go....hiiiiiiiiiiiiii hoooooooooooooo ×5..........and you can't afford to live with grudges,move on and carry no hard feelings. For the kid...its not the best experience growing up without knowing his/her biological father,even if the man you marry will be the best daddy to that kid,something will always smell amiss. ..curiosity will override....Even Obama came knocking and made us proud. don't expect anyone to act like your favourite grandmother in wanting what's best for you.
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Rank: Member Joined: 6/4/2008 Posts: 394
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'Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.' Martin Luther King 'There are plenty more fish in the sea,I just don't have a very effective net' Doors of opportunity don't just open , they have to be unlocked & it's up to you to turn the knob.
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Rank: Member Joined: 8/12/2009 Posts: 21
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Ooo God! Help me not to hate and to be able to forgive but not to forget.Am findind it hard as a human being but to be able to continue living a happy life in this world,i have got no choice.In this cruel world which is natural unfair,every moment i try to do good,i just find myself doing bad things.But now Lord,in the midst of challanges,i have to survive,for you to be able to forgive my sins,i have to forgive others; for me to be loved by others and find joy in this life,i have to learn not to hate but to be happy ; Ngumu sana,Yes there is a mountain,a very big one ahead of me,give me the strength and courage to climb it.God gracious hear Me!
Life is more stict than a teacher,a teacher teaches a lesson&takes an exam but life does the reverse!
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/23/2007 Posts: 441
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be strong and you shall make it gal. many of us- like me- were brought up with great difficulties by single moms and we are doing just fine.
with determination,hard work,stamina,prayers,and some bit of good luck....you can't go wrong!
bY aNy MeAns NecEsSaRy.....
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Rank: Member Joined: 7/7/2008 Posts: 49
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That kid shall be a big bless in your life,take great care of her/him
invest slowly on a monthly basis dont wait till ati u get millions
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Rank: Member Joined: 10/11/2008 Posts: 134
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I dint see the actual story but what i can say is you did the right thing girl by having yourself tested. HIV is something that shutters lives of so many kenyans and leaves behind families emotionally wrecked! Knowing your status is very important cause once you get tested its very unlikely you can afford to have sex without protection cause you dont know the status of the other person. Chances are you will have to persuade your next partner to get tested if he wants the 'peremende bila karatasi'
Jay
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Rank: Member Joined: 2/25/2009 Posts: 56
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Hi New member, Believe me you can only get the best advise among this people. Pls take good care of your unborn baby and yaself,a mature person that tells you to abort in this age and era by no means should not be for keeps. Further,an untrustworthy person in this era of AIDS will only bring misery to you. Be wise and make the right decision,women have a sixth sense and if it says no,pls listen to it. Life is too short for experiments. 'Do all the good you can,by all the means you can,in all the ways you can, in all the places you can,to all the people you can,as long as ever you can'. John Wesley English Preacher (1703-1791) 'Do all the good you can,by all the means you can,in all the ways you can,
in all the places you can,to all the people you can,as long as ever you can'.
John Wesley
English Preacher (1703-1791)
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Rank: Member Joined: 8/12/2009 Posts: 21
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@Lyra
You call him a mature person,i donno,i also thought so being that he is in his early 30s,but when he opted for a short cut in the name of abortion,i can no longer use the term mature.Mature people are those who are ready to take responsibility for their actions.He would want to be viewed as a virgin who has maintained his faith till the wedding day.A holy brother who has known no woman in his life which is totally opposite.
I had also wished the same,i tried to perservere and do my parents proud by breaking the norm of the day.I wanted to be faithful to my God and bring Glory by keeping myself pure.Unfortunately,it has gone with the wind.But unlike him,i have to suffer shame by going through it for 9months till the day i will bring my baby to this world.Let people know that i am no longer the holy gal they used to know.I would not want pple to view me like an angel but let them know that am a human being like any other.
One thing am sure of is that there is a purpose for everything happening under the sun.God new that one day such a thing will happen to me so to me its an accident but to God its not news.He has a reason for this.
I know a good %age of marriages always take place when the woman is pegged and they realise that the solution is to start staying together.But in my case,am not seeing myself pushing this guy to be my husband because of what happened,i still dont know what he will ever do to regain my trust.Its that hard but that is the reality,he must be very lucky since he can run away with it.
Life is more stict than a teacher,a teacher teaches a lesson&takes an exam but life does the reverse!
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Rank: Member Joined: 10/11/2008 Posts: 134
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Well i reckon you did or are doing the right thing dear. The fact that you have accepted your fate from this obtuse ruffian who did this to you,means that the healing process can begin. Being in denial would have deepened your misery and pro long your pain. Now that you've accepted yourself the way you are,move forward put your head up and thank God the tests turned negative hence you have a future you can plan for.
Talking of not knowing what he can possibly do to win your trust is something you shouldnt think about. He does not deserve a second chance at all. You may have been vulnerable and he took advantage of you,he put you in trouble and decided to jump ship by taking the easy way out. Leaving you holding the burning end of the stick,very unfair indeed. Remember if someone fools you one time,its their fault; but if they do it the second time,then its your fault!
Jay
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Rank: Member Joined: 11/2/2006 Posts: 519
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Forget HIV/AIDS,your anger and hatred for this guy will destroy you much faster.
I can bet you that as you hurt so much over spilt milk the guy's continuing to enjoy his life (mature or not). You'll end up teaching your kids how to hate instead of love.
You'll discover like I did that blaming someone else for your predicaments won't help.
Bright and interesting people talk about ideas.
Those of average intelligence talk about things.
Stupid people talk about other people.
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