Wazuans,
I am asking this for a non wazuan colleague . Lawyers in the forum,
A friend has an ongoing issue where there is a toi -girl,think abt 10yrs old he got with his X, but they have both married(different pple) but the guy has been supporting the dota, paying fees, etc. The toi stays with the mother. Lately the foster father has really brought issues about contact btn the two Xs effectively denying access to the girl. The girl has also been secretly transferred to another school by the custodial parents without informing the biological father.

The guy is headed to court seeking full/ joint custody. Any wazuans with experiences is such matters? what are the pitfalls/secrets?

My advice is tell him to go to a lawyer who deals in these matters and not just any lawyer. I know the biological father has rights if the reason for their separation was not abuse to the daughter.

First, @2012 is right. Get a child's lawyer, a woman is better.

Secondly, as long as the reason for separation was no abuse to child, above certain age, the child can be given custody to parent gathering for child's needs. Law restricts children below 7 years remain with mother... So at age 10, this is too old...

Thirdly, since you're the one responsible for the child you have more say on the child's welfare... You pay school fees to the school of your choice. You pay clothing for the clothes you buy. You pay medical fee for the hospital you want... not what she and her parasite husband want...

Fourthly, unfortunately, women are so "blind". They do not look at the bigger picture. They compete in matters of child not for any other reason but just to get into the man. They think hurting the child will hurt the biological father. They only see the damage to the child later when child is grown up. The woman will only regret later... What they see is money you send to her for maintenance... they want to eat their cake and have it.

From what I have been told, the current parents to the girl are able to provide to some level, but not to where my colleague wants/can. Like he wants a better school for the girl, but the custodial parents are unwilling. He went to pay fees only to be told the girl hasn't reported, and when the school called, the mother said the girl had been transferred.

Really?? I doubt it's in this guys interest and both of them are married so really there is no one trying to win another. I understand him, If your kids are going to Riara kwa mfano, why would you want their step-sister to go to a school in Kariobangi and you can afford a better school for her?