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Rank: Member Joined: 4/28/2008 Posts: 12
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@all SK gentlemen - if you had an option,would you marry a housewife or a career woman? why?
Life is about taking risks.
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Rank: Member Joined: 11/21/2008 Posts: 42
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Go for a house wife.....the best option. According to the MYW (maendeleo ya wasee) survey more buttering was from areas where career women was high (Nyeri). OTHERWISE If you get two of the housewife,please sambaza the other extra @ my address bestmantomarryfor2010@gmail.com additionally,majority of career women are a stress and better stay alone especially if she is in marketing,media,Travel & tours,she is someones secretary,Brewing industry etc. 'A newspaper has three things to do. One is to amuse,another is to entertain and the rest is to mislead.' Ernest Bevin
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Rank: Member Joined: 6/17/2008 Posts: 294
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Career women!
Ecclesiates 4: 8-12
' Two are better than one,for they get a good reward for their labour ! When one falls down,the other lifts him up. When they lie down...........'
But you shall remember the LORD your God,for it is He who is giving you power to make wealth,that He may confirm His covenant which He swore to your fathers,as it is this day. Deu 8:18
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Rank: Member Joined: 12/9/2007 Posts: 7
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@ Eli,
in the same passage,Verse 11 says:
11 'Also,if two lie down together,they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone? '
A career woman will hardly (with all due respect) be available to lie and keep warm with their hubbyz. I go for a house wfie.
Not the best,but not like the rest.
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Rank: Member Joined: 9/12/2006 Posts: 22
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As you post your responses,could you include your reasons for your preference/repulsion as the case may be.
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Rank: Member Joined: 4/28/2008 Posts: 12
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surely where are the sk gentlemen? 289 views and only 4 replies????????
Life is about taking risks.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/19/2008 Posts: 839
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we are busy with threads... of national importance..... I'm the real Massey F.....shut your mouth I'm the real Massey Fergu...... Shut your mouth....
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/4/2008 Posts: 1,289 Location: Nairobi
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The topic of career women appeared in Saturday's Nation magazine. Career women hitting back claiming when men go abroad to study it is seen as okay,but when women go,it is not okay.
The last thing I want is a woman who sees nothing other than her job. It has been proven,women take their jobs too seriously. Men stop getting motivated after some point in their career and opt for working less. They thus create time to go to the gym,see the kids and pursue other matters of interest. For ladies,the more you pay them,the more hours they put in. For men,after some point,the more you pay them,the less time they will put in. Woe unto you if you are the dude of a career lady. Meetings ago on till midnight! You will feel neglected at some point. From experience after some time you find it difficult to date a career woman.
Fundamentals + Sentiments = Position
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Rank: Member Joined: 6/12/2009 Posts: 96
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What is a career woman ? Does it mean married women should not be ambitious ?
Even graduates of specialities that have been regarded as lowly at times rise up the corporate ladder to very senior positions. If my wife is one of these do I divorce her ??
Relegating your wife means that you are a looser. What makes one think that a housewife wont cheat ?
I think what matters is the kind of human being that you marry,not their jobs or lack of..
Zama za Kengen IPO.... zama za mali
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/23/2008 Posts: 3,017
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When you say career woman,what do you mean,example does a school teacher qualify as a career woman. I am married to a working woman and I completely approve. When you marry a housewife,does this mean you marry a lady who was a working then she quits work to raise the children or do you target a lady with no work. You know there are financial implications here. I've noticed the youth in particular coming in to a workplace with a completely outsized notion of their own value and importance... just a thinly-veiled arrogance. May be the credit crunch induced recession is whats needed to remind us all about the value of hard work.... By Anonymous "The purpose of bureaucracy is to compensate for incompetence and lack of discipline." James Collins
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/19/2008 Posts: 4,268
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@Alphadoti
I think what we should be talking about here is not whether the lady is working or not. the important issue is whether she is able to balance the family attention and her job if you like. If a lady is in business,is she seen as a 'career lady'? Some business take more time than if someone was employed. A lady can be a housewife but has all these chamas and keshas that a man doesnt get to see her often either.... If you are to get married,i believe what you should ask yourself is what kind of lady you have,her commitment to family values and time and her ability to balance between family and whatever else she undertakes in her life.
Some deals are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/4/2008 Posts: 1,289 Location: Nairobi
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Am not against women working. There is nothing wrong with a woman who works. It is good for all. It is only when they start climbing the corporate ladder. Senior managers,directors in very demanding positions at the expense of their lifestyle and family,that is where the problem kicks in.
Fundamentals + Sentiments = Position
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/12/2009 Posts: 152
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ali,
like wendz has already pointed.........its the person that u r married to.....
high positions or not......u can always balance......depending on your commitment.....
we value our families more than anything else.....
thats why we toil....to give the best...
don't worry....be happy
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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@wendz I agree there are very many good wives and mothers in the corporate world.
But look around,as responsibilities and demands from the job increases,
the more hours they put,the more unavailable she becomes to family.
@Luisa,if you're stable and have established yourself,pick a learned wife who will assist you in your businesses.
But if you require financial assistance to run a home,a working (did you say career) woman will give you a hand.
But you must be warry of which industry she is. Some industries are a trouble.
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Rank: Member Joined: 11/15/2006 Posts: 44
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people who want different havent been exposed to the stay home woman
I knw a couple where the man became v sucsessful so he got his wife to stay home and manage family affaires. Let me tell,after a few years it was the jama who went to look for her next job. i leave it to your imagination to figure out what happened
No man needs all that energy concentrating into 'managing' and monitoring his life. plus if she is a stay home mom the man is her primary source of entertainment ... and hell. too much responsibility
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Rank: Member Joined: 12/9/2006 Posts: 186
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This is simple,have two wives,one the trophy career wife for the social and financial prestige. Second wife the housewife who cooks,cleans and raises your children. Exercise your options,hapana kungethia ovyo ovyo.
When in doubt,follow the money.
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Rank: Member Joined: 7/31/2008 Posts: 116
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So long as the woman can balance betwen her career and family it is ok. Although it's hard some have done well in taking care of their families while mantaining their work. All in all,for women business is the best option. Even for men it is better to be self -employed.
For career women it is usually hard to hold to their marriage. In fact most of the women in middle management and above are single. Some who were never married see the need of getting kids very late,with any man.
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Rank: Member Joined: 6/26/2008 Posts: 365
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@Luisa,if you are a lady,do not listen to the men because they will tell you all sorts of things to discourage you from succeeding,becoz basically they are afraid of successful women. Your happiness comes first,why sacrifice it for the sake of a man who loves you conditionally? I will praise thee,O Lord my God,with all my heart: And I will glorify thy name forever more. Psalms 86:12 If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love - Maya Angelou
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 7/22/2008 Posts: 1,139
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THIS THREAD IS VERY INTERESTING, It reminds me of smthing we were actually discussing the other week over lunch hour with some work mates(dudes & dudettes).After we had read that article on Nation. The dudettes were of the view that dudes are useless and their work is only to 'post JV' They claimed if its that...they can get it somewhere else other that to lift legs in the evening for their so called husbands who give orders day in day out. Dudes (me being one of them) were of the view.......live senior bachelor's life and get some one to service you when your engines approaches the min mileage. If you want kids.....simply get a house wife or no so much career women......those who dont want to climb the corporate ladder......you can tell who they are....otherwise you marry a key figure in the company and she gives your thighland to the collegues after meetings.... hahaha Disclaimer : This is my opinion and not a recommendation. "You're not supposed to be so blind with patriotism that you can't face reality. Wrong is wrong, no matter who says it". Malcolm X
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Rank: Member Joined: 10/17/2008 Posts: 338 Location: Kenya
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beinG a duDe i bet soMe help with the doMestic expeNses caNt huRt at all so caReer woMan...anytiMe. ProbleM coMes when sHe geTs the coVeteD PromotioN,theN realiSes sHe needS thaT ProfessioNal couRse and/oR Masters...anD sHe sloWly disaPPears froM thE bedRoom and From youR lifE. you eveN donT notiCe it wheN you sloWly fall foR the houSe-helP- wee..shiDa! thEn again a Hou-Wife wilL haVe all the timE on Her Hands to socialiSe witH other wiVes anD get into thAt grouP and tRy this stuff and that Stuff anD in thE enD its so OverWhelmiNg you wanT to disaPPear!! so the besT tHing praY foR a wiFe who Knos how to BalaNce the tWo. Wisdom brightens a man's face and changes its hard appearance.Eccle 8:1 Think the unthinkable but wear a dark suit
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