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Rank: Member Joined: 6/28/2010 Posts: 293 Location: Gigiri
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some months ago I attended a "Goat eating" fundraiser for a colleague to raise money to pay his dowry. Now the wedding preparations are underway, and I am needed in the wedding commitee " so that I and others can pledge what to give towards the wedding, on the wedding day am expected to give a present to the newly married......haiyaiyaiyae, things are getting out of hand, we fund you dowry, we fund ya wedding then we stock your new matrimonial house!!!! Nonsense, I will never sit in a wedding committee. People should learn to fund themselves or conduct simple weddings, like I did, mine didn't even cost 90k!! Sina Signature. NKT
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Rank: Member Joined: 10/4/2007 Posts: 656
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Now go and tell that to your colleague. He is the one who needs to hear that...... but yenyewe nakufeel... wedding commitees hazileti shangwe! Its good to raise funds for understandable stuff like school fees, medical bills but not WEDDINGS!!! having the public fund ya pleasures ni UJINGA The way I am
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/19/2007 Posts: 2,047
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This one reminds me of a wedding 'committee' which I attended a while back. The couple presented a list of stuff,including the rings  well,this was kinda in the village so it did not look too bad.... But i agree with @ kelele. people should operate within their means. Why go to Windsor you do not have bakes to fund it? However,if you have the bakes,do it even in Shompole yeah i cant help myself
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 9/19/2011 Posts: 1,694
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The problem we face nowadays emanates by "keeping up with the macharias", where we strive to outdo each other in terms of how big and colourful the wedding should be. It doesn't matter if you don't have the resources, we think its our right to have friends contribute generously towards the wedding. These committees are nothing but fundraisers. I was invited to sit in a committee a few years back and to my utter amazement, the couple had already chosen all the they needed and just wanted help with the cash, from the songs to be played on the day right down to the vehicles they wanted. I never went back for the meetings. 
“People will believe a big lie sooner than a little one, and if you repeat it frequently enough, people will sooner or later believe it.” ― Walter C. Langer
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/24/2007 Posts: 1,805
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This nonsense of toanishaing guys in the name of a fanciful wedding is not new. They were first called pre- weddings then when guys caught the idea and started keeping off, they morphed into goat eating parties. Personally I resolved NEVER to pay anyone's dowry. Never. I once sat in a committee for a wedding where our 'parents' had refused. We decided to make it happen coz the guys were in love. By the end of the committee, I understood why our mothers were against their daughter marrying that man. The burger had the audacity to ask' ninunulieni suti'.. Very useless idiot, we give you our sister, we organize the wedding ( his people did jerk), then we buy you the suit?? Iko watu shenzi type kabisa! I Think Therefore I Am
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 3/25/2010 Posts: 939 Location: Nai
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kelele.com wrote:some months ago I attended a "Goat eating" fundraiser for a colleague to raise money to pay his dowry. Now the wedding preparations are underway, and I am needed in the wedding commitee " so that I and others can pledge what to give towards the wedding, on the wedding day am expected to give a present to the newly married......haiyaiyaiyae, things are getting out of hand, we fund you dowry, we fund ya wedding then we stock your new matrimonial house!!!! Nonsense, I will never sit in a wedding committee. People should learn to fund themselves or conduct simple weddings, like I did, mine didn't even cost 90k!! @kelele.com hio ni ukweli. i have never understood why people have to do weddings that they can't afford them then they end up begging for money some even go to the extend of taking loans. Worst still asking your friends to help you pay dowry?? please get a life! Mbona kujistress yet you can pay 200 for notice and 1050 for the AG chambers instead of begging. Hio 500K + enda lipa deposit ya plot.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 4/9/2008 Posts: 2,824
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nowadays i only appear on the wedding day to eat 'nchenga' and a present of a thermos flask. Ukikataa thermos shauri yako. maneno ya committe siwesmek When I have money, I get rid of it quickly, lest it find a way into my heart.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/26/2008 Posts: 2,097
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kelele.com wrote:some months ago I attended a "Goat eating" fundraiser for a colleague to raise money to pay his dowry. Now the wedding preparations are underway, and I am needed in the wedding commitee " so that I and others can pledge what to give towards the wedding, on the wedding day am expected to give a present to the newly married......haiyaiyaiyae, things are getting out of hand, we fund you dowry, we fund ya wedding then we stock your new matrimonial house!!!! Nonsense, I will never sit in a wedding committee. People should learn to fund themselves or conduct simple weddings, like I did, mine didn't even cost 90k!! People should do weddings only if they have their own resources. If not, go to the AG chambers, wont cost more than 10K. "Never regret, if its good, its wonderful. If its bad, its experience."
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/26/2008 Posts: 2,097
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kingfisher wrote:nowadays i only appear on the wedding day to eat 'nchenga' and a present of a thermos flask. Ukikataa thermos shauri yako. maneno ya committe siwesmek  I like that "Never regret, if its good, its wonderful. If its bad, its experience."
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Rank: Member Joined: 3/24/2010 Posts: 677 Location: Nairobi
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I know of one where the committee money bought the brides car because the couple already had enough moola for the actual wedding. Including the honeymoon. The bride said this with no form of shame of course after the wedding. Never can I attend these things. 
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