If you study your question, Binyavanga's experience, my questions and all the reactions of the characters involved, one thing appears; all seem to give the same response but differ in terms of preffered objects.

The issue isn't about sexual preference per se. It's about how and why people form identities and how they use these identities to make sense of life. Heterosexuals being the dominant majority will have different objects to reinforce their position like prestige, power, fame because these are areas of the highest marginal difference among them. And in extension, heterosexuals will tend to impose these values and objects on others.

Same for gays given a context in which they are not the dominant population or force. Their sexuality becomes an area of high marginal difference and an important part of their interaction with the world.

So there are two answers to your question: the first being, gayism has a high marginal difference with respect to contemporary society and thus gets more energy and attention among gays. And the second answer is most people are inclined to have sticky self concepts that disable them from having mutually healthy relationships with others.

I really hope my 'English' has been clear and plain enough.

You could say the same about any marginalised group - women, disabled, minority tribes etc.

I dont know what to say about this guys situation.His life choices have not been in line with the norm and unfortunately they seem to have led him to doom.

The last time it was said he had cancer,now we are talking HIV.Sad situation this is.

I wonder what his family thinks about his public declarations.

Positive and happy? Total BULL!