I would like to state,and categorically,without a shadow of doubt,that Djinn amecum point hapo! Like I stated earlier,men havent changed much,same ol fakas,though with a reduced frequency in the face of the killer disease. Women on the other hand,have gotten the equality thingy all wrong. Trust me,its only a woman who can singlehandedly hold a family 2getha. The woman becomes a b**** n the family goes to the dogs. Look at it ths way,who would u rather cheats,the man or the wify? Who loses respect n dignity bigtime? Todays woman has no clue,ni kushindana na mandume tu...

Can silence be misquoted?

@ Djinn,

Thanks for your comments and thank you very much for pushing @Leona to make this statement:

But i think its also time men played their role as bread winners(doesnt have to be sole bread winner,but bread winner all the same)

This has had a great contribution to the current situation.

There is a breed of men that just wants to sit back and 'CHILL'

The thicker the thigh the sweeter the pie.

@SimonKabz - yes. And we all see it in some instances where the Mrs is sometimes so bold as to confront the man in public - and I do not mean that the man has the final word...but lets take an evening out - Mr and Mrs and their friends who are also married couples - in an inebriated state Mr 3 decided to throw a round and gets chided by his wife openly for spending too much. Mr 2 offers to take Mr and Mrs 1 and 3 all the way home and his wife gives him hell for it (in both cases,since they contribute to the home kitty,and have a say,they take it way too far....I have seen this happen. And sometimes you see very awkward couples going out because of fear of such outbursts....

The problem with equality is that we desire that it be with those that have more than us rather that those that have less

@ the General you are so right. when the women work their backs off and provide for these men who just wants to sit back and enjoy...the men start complaining...oo my wife spends most of her time with her womenfolk..ooo she's in the office more times than she is at home.

if only we men..just the women....cd also change with the environment..you know support the family and marriage together then we would not have all these separations and divorces.


A little Blindness is necessary when you undertake Risk.

yes.. some men don't deserve to be men..

like our brothers from (i think) turkana or samburu who were aired by ntv sometimes back...

they wake up and attend some good for nothing 'barazas' while their wives toils day in day out...

honestly it is a shame to mankind...

nevertheless,majority of the so called modern women are pain points as they have a whole new meaning to the management of homes... the fact that a woman is also a bread winner does not in any way make her superior to the man and disavow all the respect and privileges that comes with being a man...

When you run so fast to get somewhere,you miss the fun of getting there... Life is not a race,so take it slowly....

Why don't we just get rid of these outdated institution? It serves absolutely no purpose...

The men still want many women,and not take any of them home

The women also are now breadwinners

The men want their freedom...

The women want their freedom..

Remain Single!! For everyones sake....

'...every relationship rests on three legs: accepting,supporting and challenging. That's really it,isn't it? You want your relationships to be grounded on accepting each other as you are. On supporting each other through the inevitable ups and downs. On challenging each other to become more,to grow,to flourish.....' this is lifted off facebook

The problem with equality is that we desire that it be with those that have more than us rather that those that have less

a study on how many separations occur not that long after after mama has been promoted to a big post with a big salary that resembles a telephone no. ( and in some cases even includes pet allowances,inter alia) would be very revealing as well.

Could be flexing of new financial muscle,or shift in control/power...but something snaps in the descendants of Eve,which the man comes to realise when he hears the 4 words...'Honey,I need space.'

Apo yuko sida.



..there's nothing,absolutely nothing really,that I can't do if I put my mind to it.

I have not been following this post so forgive me if I repeat anything since I can't read all the replies. Marriage is not really under threat even with the divorce rates rising and people 'staying in bad marriages'. There is a psychologist who says that there are never really new problems it is just that the old problems mutating....kitambo guys used to tolerate each other nowadays guys are liberal....two sides of a coin....

Anyway I think the reason someone comes in really matters...most guys get married for the wrong reasons....sijui the lady is pregnant so they are getting married for the kid...sijui someone is too old and time is catching up e.t.c. e.t.c. Then we are at the era of instant gratification,so guys can't persevere sorting out issues with their spouses culminating into a lot of drama.

A guy's circle of friends is also really important and that's why some guys will tell you that marriage is great while others will say that there is no




real love

I surround myself with guys with very very healthy,happy marriages where you can even feel the love from a distance...I also enjoy true and real love ....

This is like a whole topic but I will just finish by quoting Ephesians 5


Wives and Husbands
22Wives,submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,his body,of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ,so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25Husbands,love your wives,just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy,cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word,27and to present her to himself as a radiant church,without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish,but holy and blameless. 28In this same way,husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all,no one ever hated his own body,but he feeds and cares for it,just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,and the two will become one flesh.'c] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However,each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,and the wife must respect her husband.



Acts 2:38: 38Peter replied,'Repent and be baptized,every one of you,in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.

“If he can manage to keep his woman with the Sh10 that remains, and as long as I do not know of her existence,” said one respondent who said she is happily married.