@Mahegoat, I introduced the matter of fuzzy logic because you happen again not to be entirely wrong, in that I am responding to my own imagination. Hehehe! She calls them 'projections'.
But then you are also making projections!
She could also be the banker and the wife, or that I am a free lover! Or even, both!
In love, we always find ourselves beginning with projections. We have a clue about how people who are in love relate, and try to play by the script. The projections.
But there must always be conflict and inner pain as two projections standing seperately cannot bring completeness.
The reflector must be deconstructed to be one new reflector at all times.
So sometimes for us, our projections get on the way and we get into a love - hate relationship, then we deconstruct and construct again.
And I am always sure that she loves me when I see her Deconstructing herself for me.
And I am sure that I love her, because even now I am Deconstructing myself for her.
And when we meet, we will reconstruct a new self together.
Did my parents love each other then? The answer can only be given with reference to a specific times. But somehow most of the times there was hate and anger, therefore, no love.