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How can I improve my speech?
newfarer
#1 Posted : Thursday, April 08, 2010 8:28:26 AM
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Good people . For the days I have been here , I have seen talent in the site.


Something has been bothering me too much.Let me 'fungua roho yangu'

Whenever I'm called for an interview , I flop .Not because I am not qualified or cannot do the said job,but expressing myself becomes a problem infront of the panel.

This has happened time and again and is badly affecting my career progression and self esteem.I have now developed a phobia for interviews and panic the moment Im called for one.

I know there is a person here who can help me sort out this personality problem.

Are there public speech clubs or interview coaching institutions out there?
punda amecheka
muganda
#2 Posted : Thursday, April 08, 2010 8:56:35 AM
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@newfarer, I hear people say that when a doctor actually knows your disease, your already cured 65% - so take heart smile

Toastmasters is a club where guys and gals meet to speak publicly. It's not like a traditional class, but more like a group. It has got a couple of chapters - United Kenya Club or Parklands Sports Club etc.

You introduce yourself out loud, speak on the fly to the group on some topics, and make presentations when it's your turn. I'd say it's just what the doctor ordered.

Links with email/mobile:
http://reports.toastmast...sults.cfm?Country=Kenya
newfarer
#3 Posted : Thursday, April 08, 2010 9:07:06 AM
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Thanks Muganda.I will definitely call them to see what they have to offer.
punda amecheka
gathinga
#4 Posted : Thursday, April 08, 2010 9:11:56 AM
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Muganda seconded. toasmaters are excellent
Fundaah
#5 Posted : Thursday, April 08, 2010 9:30:28 AM
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Speech and expression is given so much premium ...yet we know the most eloquent people are non performers....(pay lip service) ...while those with speech impairemnt are in most cases very effective...Look at people like Moses of the bible

Exodus 4: 10

Moses said to the LORD, "Please, Lord, I'm not a good speaker. I've never been a good speaker, and I'm not now, even though you've spoken to me. I speak slowly, and I become tongue-tied easily.

Isaiah 65:17-Look! I am creating new heavens and a new earth, and no one will even think about the old ones anymore
Njung'e
#6 Posted : Thursday, April 08, 2010 9:30:41 AM
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Muganda,
That,s interesting.....
Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
Intelligentsia
#7 Posted : Thursday, April 08, 2010 10:23:02 AM
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Confidence. Thats the cornerstone of making a good account of oneself, speech with friends/ colleagues and public-speaking.
And this confidence comes from mastery of the subject matter under discussion meaning prior research is a must, good grooming so that u r not self-conscious, humour and appropriate body language.

New fara,MADDO in one of his vibonzos once said to overcome his shyness, he imagines everybody else in the audience is naked with only him dressed!!
Now that u r smiling, realise speech is not a matter of life-n-death and inject some apt humour in it too. Goodluck!

more at
http://sixminutes.dlugan...lic-speaker-should-have/
Kusadikika
#8 Posted : Thursday, April 08, 2010 1:19:10 PM
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I feel you newfarer. It can be a really traumatic experience. Try and relax. If you attend an interview and you are thinking, "this is the most important interview in my life and if I fail my life will collapse" your body tenses up and things don't come out right. It is kind of like riding a bicycle or swimming. You relax enough and the body achieves its own balance. I have had some interviews and the ones where I did best are the ones where I almost didn't care whether they took me or not. I think those are the ones I was really relaxed.

Prepare thoroughly for the interview (know your stuff, good grooming etc) and when you get to the interview room speak from the heart. Be true.

All the best.
Magigi
#9 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 6:55:39 AM
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...are you shy? Are the type that says to their wives, " Sima taa nitoe nguo turare!!!". For a start try stripping before your wife. Secondly, while still there compose poetry for her on how you gonna ride her that night till she drowns!!!.

...the following day assemble your family together in the evening and give them a lecture on anything...Budget cuts in the house, prepare a sermon of about 20 minutes and deliver to them...

...Move to the village and join the local primary school PTA...or something like that. Try all the time to say something infront of those people...
My friend, you have to start somewhere...simple things... Eventually all those butterflies in the stomach will disappear...!!!
Impunity
#10 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 9:49:40 AM
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@magigi wacha siasa.His thing may freeze in the presence ya mama watoto.Hiyo yako sio ya speech.Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly Liar
Portfolio: Sold
You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.

Magigi
#11 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 9:57:02 AM
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Impunity
...hio ni ya kubuild confidence...
sheep
#12 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 10:00:40 AM
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Im so fortunate that we were given a practical for our job interview.Otherwise I just couldnt make the cut,I am you typical geek,extremely shy,I stammer in social situations and I can hear my quacking sound while I speak...but its all good,I have learnt to accept myself and even laugh at me.

Even Kifaki gives hopeless speeches and yet hes prezo,and most of the people I know who've made it are not so eloquent in speech just be yourself.Your day will come.
The utimate goal of investing is to buy low sell high;if we re-write this core equation in psychology terms it becomes buy fear sell greed.
Magigi
#13 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 10:14:54 AM
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"According to most studies, people's number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Death is number two. Does that sound right? This means to the average person, if you go to a funeral, you're better off in the casket than doing the eulogy.”

Jenny Seinfield
anasazi
#14 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 11:05:13 AM
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Practice makes perfect... Speak before people who dont intimidate you, and keep raising the bar till it becomes natural. How bad can it get? Dont judge yourself too harshly. After all, Kibaki speaks publicly and he doesnt care what peope think!
Form is temporary, class is permanent
bkismat
#15 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 11:20:32 AM
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I have never noticed until now that Kibaki is considered a bad speaker.
It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt...
-Mark Twain
Njung'e
#16 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 11:54:56 AM
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Lemme guess....Magigi is in Jamaica or Afghanistan....Back to the topic.Public speech is not for everyone.My high school HM was a very bright Kenyan of Indian origin and despite his administration skills and all,he could not make a coherent statement without falling over himself.In most cases,he left us in stitches.He knew his problem and in just about all cases,he took time to laugh at his own jokes.Picture this.One Sato afternoon,he is driving his wife for an outing and he encounters a student who'd left school without permission.The lad disappears in a wheat plantation.Come Monday and here is his statement:

"I was driving and i saw Kipruto walking along the road.When he saw me,he ran into the bush with my wife"
Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
wasee
#17 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 12:19:27 PM
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@Newfarer.
My advise would be you relax and be confident. Prepare well for the interview, get your documents organised and arrive early so that you relax even more. The greatest tip to remember is "Ask yourself what can those people in the panel do? -- The Simple answer is, they can either give you the job or say No." So even as you enter the room, be yourself and just answer the questions as asked. Dont worry of what they will say after.

Am optimistic you can face any interview.
Intelligentsia
#18 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 2:02:44 PM
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the key thing standing out is confidence - not necessarily the speech itself. Bifwoli,George Bush even em-o-one are hardly eloquent but got/get away with their speeches all the time.
anasazi
#19 Posted : Friday, April 09, 2010 2:03:25 PM
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lol @Njunge
Form is temporary, class is permanent
sparkly
#20 Posted : Sunday, April 11, 2010 10:40:30 AM
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@magigi hio kali @newfarer google common standard interview questions eg your strengths, where you see yourself in 5 years, achievements etc research on the organisation culture, mission, vision etc write down your answers and practice them aloud. Imagine you are before the panel. Use a mirror if necessary. Speak slowly and elaborately. On the day of the interview note the panelist's names and address them by their names when responding. Maintain eye contact and confident posture. If you are qualified job is yours.
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