men sometimes we put ourselves in shit for no good reason. JK u have said it better. What goes around, comes around.

Take back the mother of your 5yr old son and move on.
Mambo ya women 5 yrs younger than you wacha. You have put yourself in a very precarious position. If you were to die today - God forbid, your property will be taken by the 23 yr old and your son will come nowhere near. Do you think he would ever forgive u if he found out?

I can imagine that you love your son since you support him "at arms length". How would it be going home to that apartment and finding him instead of whining about some stubborn 23 yr old "roommate" who has refused to have your "imaginary" baby?

A bird in hand is better than 1 million in bush

@ All - You are all being taken for a ride by this so called "John Kamau". He registered today and he is all about the New Constitution. This is a guy on a campaign mission. Mambo ya wife, son, 21yr old is just bait! Talk about e-marketing!

@JK - This issue has disturbed you for a whole year and you are contemplating divorce 5 working days to the referendum? Give me a break!

@Leona - If it were come we stay I would not be worried.

@Jaina - I am not seekig divorce in 5 days and @MaichBlack I am not on a campaign mission. Note on the topic I ask a question not make a statement.

As far as the current constitution is concerned there is no problem as proof of contribution is needed otherwise I decide what to share out. Ms Leona (and other wazual ladies) tommorow it may be you whose property is at risk from some unscrupulous guy.

have you tried all other avenues before you decide it is divorce time? have you tried counseling, parents, church etc. And what is her reason of not getting pregnant? Have you discussed your intention of divorce with her on the basis that you want to start a family and it seems you cant start with her? Is she back to school because probably that is what is holding her back and which you can negotiate? Also, the age difference is not helping you hear.... she may feel she is still too young to get children and may be she wants to start her family when she is 28 or so.... she still has time.... may be what she doesn't realise is that your age is also advancing.... You really dont have much of a choice.

You will either have to

1. wait until she is ready
2. negotiate and agree on when baby will show up
3. divorce whether under the current or proposed constitution...(and by the way, YOU don't decide what to share) either way, you will part with your property but you can talk to a good lawyer to advise you on how to minimise the loss.
4. good luck in your decision.

5. Other single wazuans, if you are going to get married, consider the age differences..... very important

ehe Wendz - what is the appropriate age difference?

@Kamau,
Wendz is 45...

This is the reason why men don't disclose their investments to their wives.
But John you are lucky that all your properties are in your name and you don't have kids together. If I were you I'd sell them, convert the cash into dollars or euros and put in a confidential safety deposit box with one of the banks and go through with the divorce. She will never know.

As in she got the daughter when she was 17 at most?

See, am even older than your mother-in-law........

But except not getting a baby, the gal doesnt seem to have any other issues... i thought that was your contentious issue? Plus, yo are the one who wants divorce, not her? so how did she become a gold-digger by the way? sema yote hapa....

And the soap opera continues...

Next week... John Alehandro Kamau visits...

Dump the daughter and go after the mother. You'll then be her step dad. That will put her in her place. 2012, nice thinking with the safety deposit box. Were you ever to go through a divorce, inaonekana you would lose NOTHING