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Rank: Elder Joined: 2/26/2012 Posts: 15,980
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Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do "There are only two emotions in the market, hope & fear. The problem is you hope when you should fear & fear when you should hope: - Jesse Livermore
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Rank: Elder Joined: 9/23/2009 Posts: 8,083 Location: Enk are Nyirobi
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murchr wrote:Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do Sustenance is ok. But there is one who called demanding for a loan to start a business. She was bitter that whereas I have assisted other younger relas through school, I have never "helped" her. This is a married woman aged 37 who feels entitled to a loan from me. Life is short. Live passionately.
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Rank: User Joined: 8/15/2013 Posts: 13,236 Location: Vacuum
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sparkly wrote:murchr wrote:Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do Sustenance is ok. But there is one who called demanding for a loan to start a business. She was bitter that whereas I have assisted other younger relas through school, I have never "helped" her. This is a married woman aged 37 who feels entitled to a loan from me. If you do have, give out but don't squeeze yourself to give out. If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/3/2008 Posts: 4,057 Location: Gwitu
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sparkly wrote:murchr wrote:Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do Sustenance is ok. But there is one who called demanding for a loan to start a business. She was bitter that whereas I have assisted other younger relas through school, I have never "helped" her. This is a married woman aged 37 who feels entitled to a loan from me. Key word is ' entitlement' Truth forever on the scaffold
Wrong forever on the throne
(James Russell Rowell)
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 5/5/2011 Posts: 1,059
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some will find me repairing a fence or the outside toilet, sit next to me telling me about his problems he can't even think of kujipa kazi helping me, so what I now do is give the some manual work that needs to be done like clearing the drive way to the house from the road, or prunning the trees and arranging the branches to dry for firewood, only then can i give money based on the current daily wage yani ki-siku To Each His Own
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 1/10/2015 Posts: 961 Location: Kenya
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You guys are mean. You happily spend thousands buying single malt whiskys to strangers at pubs but find it hard to give your relatives some petty cash. Someone has even confessed demanding back the 1k he gave his uncle. Isn't this asking for a curse? Proverbs 13:11 Dishonest money dwindles away, but whoever gathers money little by little makes it grow.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/7/2012 Posts: 11,908
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sqft wrote:You guys are mean. You happily spend thousands buying single malt whiskys to strangers at pubs but find it hard to give your relatives some petty cash. Someone has even confessed demanding back the 1k he gave his uncle. Isn't this asking for a curse? True, I agree with you. Kwanza some strange random women are bought for booze and food, paid for uber plus given 2+++ thaos za kujishigilia nayo mpaka next time. In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins - cash and experience. Take the experience first; the cash will come later - H Geneen
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Rank: User Joined: 8/15/2013 Posts: 13,236 Location: Vacuum
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Angelica _ann wrote:sqft wrote:You guys are mean. You happily spend thousands buying single malt whiskys to strangers at pubs but find it hard to give your relatives some petty cash. Someone has even confessed demanding back the 1k he gave his uncle. Isn't this asking for a curse? True, I agree with you. Kwanza some strange random women are bought for booze and food, paid for uber plus given 2+++ thaos za kujishigilia nayo mpaka next time. This is a simple cost benefit analysis. An uncle doesn't have an airport yet the strange women have airport. If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 1/25/2012 Posts: 1,624 Location: Langley
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xyzee wrote:I have an uncle who would call every time with one story or the other. He would always ask for small amounts that in most cases you would not mind giving out but it became too much.
One day asked for 600, I gave him a 1000 as a soft loan which he gladly took promising to pay back. On the day he had promised to pay I called him and of cause he give me another date, this continued untill he started ignoring my calls. And with that my problem was solved. This works miraculously. Applied it to a nagging friend, they have never called again to ask for money. If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 12/8/2009 Posts: 975 Location: Nairobi
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Mastermind wrote:xyzee wrote:I have an uncle who would call every time with one story or the other. He would always ask for small amounts that in most cases you would not mind giving out but it became too much.
One day asked for 600, I gave him a 1000 as a soft loan which he gladly took promising to pay back. On the day he had promised to pay I called him and of cause he give me another date, this continued untill he started ignoring my calls. And with that my problem was solved. This works miraculously. Applied it to a nagging friend, they have never called again to ask for money. This is literary buying their silence  You will know that you have arrived when money and time are not mutually exclusive "events" in you life!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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kaka2za wrote:sparkly wrote:murchr wrote:Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do Sustenance is ok. But there is one who called demanding for a loan to start a business. She was bitter that whereas I have assisted other younger relas through school, I have never "helped" her. This is a married woman aged 37 who feels entitled to a loan from me. Key word is ' entitlement' Remove the word "married". It does not matter marital status. If she is in need and you can afford, then assist. Who else do you want the relas to look up to. You know them better.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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XSK wrote:Mastermind wrote:xyzee wrote:I have an uncle who would call every time with one story or the other. He would always ask for small amounts that in most cases you would not mind giving out but it became too much.
One day asked for 600, I gave him a 1000 as a soft loan which he gladly took promising to pay back. On the day he had promised to pay I called him and of cause he give me another date, this continued untill he started ignoring my calls. And with that my problem was solved. This works miraculously. Applied it to a nagging friend, they have never called again to ask for money. This is literary buying their silence This works for me as well for those relas who lie about "to repay" when they don't really plan to. Because after a while they forget and call promising to repay back... I just give what I can afford to lose.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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Swenani wrote:Angelica _ann wrote:sqft wrote:You guys are mean. You happily spend thousands buying single malt whiskys to strangers at pubs but find it hard to give your relatives some petty cash. Someone has even confessed demanding back the 1k he gave his uncle. Isn't this asking for a curse? True, I agree with you. Kwanza some strange random women are bought for booze and food, paid for uber plus given 2+++ thaos za kujishigilia nayo mpaka next time. This is a simple cost benefit analysis. An uncle doesn't have an airport yet the strange women have airport. Bad manners demanding for small money one cannot afford to lose. Leave it to them. Let it be charity or sadaqa/sadaka.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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kayhara wrote:some will find me repairing a fence or the outside toilet, sit next to me telling me about his problems he can't even think of kujipa kazi helping me, so what I now do is give the some manual work that needs to be done like clearing the drive way to the house from the road, or pruning the trees and arranging the branches to dry for firewood, only then can i give money based on the current daily wage yani ki-siku This is my trick too. When they come knocking in the morning, I ask them if they can repair that fence, or fetch water from that broken down well, or cut the edge, or wash the machines etc etc... when they give an excuse, I tell them I need to use the money to pay someone for that work.
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Rank: User Joined: 8/15/2013 Posts: 13,236 Location: Vacuum
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AlphDoti wrote:Swenani wrote:Angelica _ann wrote:sqft wrote:You guys are mean. You happily spend thousands buying single malt whiskys to strangers at pubs but find it hard to give your relatives some petty cash. Someone has even confessed demanding back the 1k he gave his uncle. Isn't this asking for a curse? True, I agree with you. Kwanza some strange random women are bought for booze and food, paid for uber plus given 2+++ thaos za kujishigilia nayo mpaka next time. This is a simple cost benefit analysis. An uncle doesn't have an airport yet the strange women have airport. Bad manners demanding for small money one cannot afford to lose. Leave it to them. Let it be charity or sadaqa/sadaka. Umesema charity ama sadaka but in your post #54, you're turning them into slaves? Bure kabisa! If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/7/2012 Posts: 11,908
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Swenani wrote:AlphDoti wrote:Swenani wrote:Angelica _ann wrote:sqft wrote:You guys are mean. You happily spend thousands buying single malt whiskys to strangers at pubs but find it hard to give your relatives some petty cash. Someone has even confessed demanding back the 1k he gave his uncle. Isn't this asking for a curse? True, I agree with you. Kwanza some strange random women are bought for booze and food, paid for uber plus given 2+++ thaos za kujishigilia nayo mpaka next time. This is a simple cost benefit analysis. An uncle doesn't have an airport yet the strange women have airport. Bad manners demanding for small money one cannot afford to lose. Leave it to them. Let it be charity or sadaqa/sadaka. Umesema charity ama sadaka but in your post #54, you're turning them into slaves? Bure kabisa! Forced labour In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins - cash and experience. Take the experience first; the cash will come later - H Geneen
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/10/2008 Posts: 9,131 Location: Kanjo
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wilyum wrote:seriously,they can be a pain in the ass,yes thts wot am toking abt,dealing with relatives and money,how do wazuans tell them,kip off.  the ones really really in need I do help, but those other ones who just want handouts, I make it a loan payable in X number of months. Of course I know they wont pay but I also know they will be in hiding for the rest of their lives. i.am.back!!!!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 9/23/2009 Posts: 8,083 Location: Enk are Nyirobi
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AlphDoti wrote:kaka2za wrote:sparkly wrote:murchr wrote:Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do Sustenance is ok. But there is one who called demanding for a loan to start a business. She was bitter that whereas I have assisted other younger relas through school, I have never "helped" her. This is a married woman aged 37 who feels entitled to a loan from me. Key word is ' entitlement' Remove the word "married". It does not matter marital status. If she is in need and you can afford, then assist. Who else do you want the relas to look up to. You know them better. It does matter because the husband should be the first person to go to. Men should not get married if they can't take care of the needs of their wives. Life is short. Live passionately.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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sparkly wrote:AlphDoti wrote:kaka2za wrote:sparkly wrote:murchr wrote:Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do Sustenance is ok. But there is one who called demanding for a loan to start a business. She was bitter that whereas I have assisted other younger relas through school, I have never "helped" her. This is a married woman aged 37 who feels entitled to a loan from me. Key word is ' entitlement' Remove the word "married". It does not matter marital status. If she is in need and you can afford, then assist. Who else do you want the relas to look up to. You know them better. It does matter because the husband should be the first person to go to. Men should not get married if they can't take care of the needs of their wives. Lady A earns 100 daily is married to man B who earn 100 daily. Both their daily income is 100+100=200, which is enough for their daily living. There is another unmarried lady C who earns 100 daily, which is enough for daily living. Now assume lady A and lady C wants to improve their life by starting a business but both don't have extra money to save. They both come to you to support them with capital for the venture. From your thinking, the married lady A does not deserve your help, but the unmarried one C does?
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Rank: Member Joined: 3/16/2019 Posts: 313
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How do you deal with relatives like Malik Obama? LINKQuote:“He got rich and became a snob. What I saw was he was the kind of person that wants people to worship him. He needs to be worshipped and I don’t do that. I am his older brother so I don’t do that,” said Malik.
The interview done via Skype from his home in Nyang’oma Kogelo village, Siaya County, was meant to promote Malik’s new book titled Big Bad Brother From Kenya, which was released in July.
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