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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/18/2008 Posts: 3,434 Location: Kerugoya
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quicksand wrote:What I don't get is why many women and male uber-modernists have to thump their bony chests regarding matters which are prima facie in the male domain.
Any suggestions to seek advice or tread the well-worn path are met with scorn and mouth-frothing histrionics.
Reverse the parenting role and different scenarios (say periods) and you would never find men assuming they know better than their female peers or relatives regarding the emotions or sanitary accessorizing that go with it.
Hear, hear.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 4/22/2010 Posts: 11,522 Location: Nairobi
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Heeeeh hadnt read this thread interesting views... possunt quia posse videntur
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/9/2009 Posts: 6,592 Location: Nairobi
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wukan wrote:hardwood wrote:wukan wrote:2012 wrote:Haiiiiya! My neighbour, a single mum wants to take her son for circumcision over the coming holidays. By herself!
Single mums raising sons, please find a trusted male 'uncle' for your sons and most preferably not your current boyfriend. His biological father would be perfect if it is the two of you who kosanad but he still loves the kids.
I heard that by 2030, over 50% of young adults between 19-24 yrs will have been raised in single mother homes. I personally think that will not be good for our society and the boys especially. I know there're many dead beats but there're also those who made the decision to beat the biological clock. It's a simple minor surgery. Perhaps she only needs a taxi on the day of the surgery. @wukan do you really know what circumcision is? Circumcision is a complex cultural transitional ritual of which the cut is just but evidence or a mark that you have undergone the ritual. That is why during the ritual individuals are isolated for some time and transitioned physically (the cut), mentally and emotionally (via lectures by elders), so that they can become responsible members of the community. Therefore it's utter nonsense for you to suggest that a mother hires a taxi and takes the boy for "a minor surgery" since the boy will only end up "cut" but not circumcised. FYI women are never involved in male circumcision matters apart from cooking for the initiates. Relics of the past. Modern kids who grew up in apartments don't go for such shenzi-type rituals. It's a health issue the boy just needs to go for a cut to prevent STIs. There is nothing complex about that. It should actually be done a few days after birth. If circumcision made boys responsible then we wouldn't be talking about the single mothers at all. Culture is dynamic so change with the times. Is it relic because it's not european? Mkosa mila ni mtumwa. BBI will solve it :)
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Rank: Member Joined: 1/22/2015 Posts: 682
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This thing is bad guys. They need to do a survey, cause my dustbin research says that any truly hot lady becomes a single mum either in college or shortly after
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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Mike Ock wrote:This thing is bad guys. They need to do a survey, cause my dustbin research says that any truly hot lady becomes a single mum either in college or shortly after When she starts writing things like "Strong women don't have attitude. They have standards and boundaries" know that she is headed to or already in single-mum arena! You see them posting "Never apologize for being a strong woman"... Others start reading stuff which teach things like "A strong woman does not beg, she will leave the moment she feels unwanted..." Unfortunately, they don't realize this is attitude right there.
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/15/2019 Posts: 677 Location: planet earth
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AlphDoti wrote:Mike Ock wrote:This thing is bad guys. They need to do a survey, cause my dustbin research says that any truly hot lady becomes a single mum either in college or shortly after When she starts writing things like "Strong women don't have attitude. They have standards and boundaries" know that she is headed to or already in single-mum arena! You see them posting "Never apologize for being a strong woman"... Others start reading stuff which teach things like "A strong woman does not beg, she will leave the moment she feels unwanted..." Unfortunately, they don't realize this is attitude right there. Singo mama and feminism/girl power are siamese twins of modern society that has rejected God All, with no exceptions, "empowered" feminists are singo mama Singo mama syndrome is a consequence of the sustained attack on the traditional nuclear family by feminists Look at their role models Mutoko Carolina; men are rubbish Wahu Kagwe: He is a liaaaaar, Kibauwau huyoo before she got saved). Her music "empowered" millions of singo mamas yet she humbled herself before her hubby and stayed married. Thank God she got saved before it was too late. All past present and future FIDA bosses Maritha Ngarua The rist is endless Age and family mellows us all over time
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Rank: Member Joined: 10/14/2011 Posts: 661
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amorphous wrote:AlphDoti wrote:Mike Ock wrote:This thing is bad guys. They need to do a survey, cause my dustbin research says that any truly hot lady becomes a single mum either in college or shortly after When she starts writing things like "Strong women don't have attitude. They have standards and boundaries" know that she is headed to or already in single-mum arena! You see them posting "Never apologize for being a strong woman"... Others start reading stuff which teach things like "A strong woman does not beg, she will leave the moment she feels unwanted..." Unfortunately, they don't realize this is attitude right there. Singo mama and feminism/girl power are siamese twins of modern society that has rejected God All, with no exceptions, "empowered" feminists are singo mama Singo mama syndrome is a consequence of the sustained attack on the traditional nuclear family by feminists Look at their role models Mutoko Carolina; men are rubbish Wahu Kagwe: He is a liaaaaar, Kibauwau huyoo before she got saved). Her music "empowered" millions of singo mamas yet she humbled herself before her hubby and stayed married. Thank God she got saved before it was too late. All past present and future FIDA bossesMaritha Ngarua The rist is endless
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2009 Posts: 26,328 Location: Masada
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Thiong'o wrote:amorphous wrote:AlphDoti wrote:Mike Ock wrote:This thing is bad guys. They need to do a survey, cause my dustbin research says that any truly hot lady becomes a single mum either in college or shortly after When she starts writing things like "Strong women don't have attitude. They have standards and boundaries" know that she is headed to or already in single-mum arena! You see them posting "Never apologize for being a strong woman"... Others start reading stuff which teach things like "A strong woman does not beg, she will leave the moment she feels unwanted..." Unfortunately, they don't realize this is attitude right there. Singo mama and feminism/girl power are siamese twins of modern society that has rejected God All, with no exceptions, "empowered" feminists are singo mama Singo mama syndrome is a consequence of the sustained attack on the traditional nuclear family by feminists Look at their role models Mutoko Carolina; men are rubbish Wahu Kagwe: He is a liaaaaar, Kibauwau huyoo before she got saved). Her music "empowered" millions of singo mamas yet she humbled herself before her hubby and stayed married. Thank God she got saved before it was too late. All past present and future FIDA bossesMaritha Ngarua The rist is endless There was one called Jaoko,was "married" But sura and hairstyle was from Pluto,past black hole huko. Portfolio: Sold You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.
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Rank: User Joined: 8/15/2013 Posts: 13,237 Location: Vacuum
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Mike Ock wrote:This thing is bad guys. They need to do a survey, cause my dustbin research says that any truly hot lady becomes a single mum either in college or shortly after Singo mothers are also the most resilient people ever If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/19/2010 Posts: 3,504 Location: Uganda
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I'm looking for the day when marrying more than one wife will be an acceptable norm. It used to be the norm in the old testament.wazee wa zamani waliona mbali.when we get there single motherhood will be minimised and we shall have a stable society. punda amecheka
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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newfarer wrote:I'm looking for the day when marrying more than one wife will be an acceptable norm. It used to be the norm in the old testament. wazee wa zamani waliona mbali.when we get there single motherhood will be minimized and we shall have a stable society. I said here that if you look at the communities where marrying more than one wife is allowed, single mother pandemic is not there... the Maasai etc. Even among us Muslims, there are very, very few single mothers, those you see fell into the feminist band wagon and I can assure you they are fornicating against their faith. However, the men have also become such cowards. They fear marrying more than one wife!
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Rank: Member Joined: 4/26/2011 Posts: 759
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There is marriage then there is loving marriage. Lot's of people are in miserable marriages, marry more than one wife is not going to solve anything.
In my opinion, divorce should be celebrated and people need to learn to not to rely on marriage and partnerships to live. I am happily married but if my wife is no longer available for me, I will not get married again. Marriage is really not necessary.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/7/2012 Posts: 11,908
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Rollout wrote:There is marriage then there is loving marriage. Lot's of people are in miserable marriages, marry more than one wife is not going to solve anything.
In my opinion, divorce should be celebrated and people need to learn to not to rely on marriage and partnerships to live. I am happily married but if my wife is no longer available for me, I will not get married again. Marriage is really not necessary. Very true!!!! In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins - cash and experience. Take the experience first; the cash will come later - H Geneen
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2009 Posts: 26,328 Location: Masada
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Rollout wrote:There is marriage then there is loving marriage. Lot's of people are in miserable marriages, marry more than one wife is not going to solve anything.
In my opinion, divorce should be celebrated and people need to learn to not to rely on marriage and partnerships to live. I am happily married but if my wife is no longer available for me, I will not get married again. Marriage is really not necessary. Portfolio: Sold You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/15/2019 Posts: 677 Location: planet earth
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Feminism that leads to singo mama syndrome always produces very terrible results: gayism, attention seeking, "playerism" all of which lead to more singo mama syndrome. It is a vicious cycle. Kenyan celebs who are products of singo mama https://mpasho.co.ke/fro...ought-up-by-single-moms/Age and family mellows us all over time
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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amorphous wrote:Feminism that leads to singo mama syndrome always produces very terrible results: gayism, attention seeking, "playerism" all of which lead to more singo mama syndrome. It is a vicious cycle. Kenyan celebs who are products of singo mama https://mpasho.co.ke/fro...ught-up-by-single-moms/
And the statistics carried out by the U.S Department of Health and Census prove that 85% of children with behaviour disorders come from single mother households, which it says is 20 times national average! This shows that a child needs both FATHER and MOTHER living in the house! Because when you don't have both parents, the chances of screwing in life is high! NOTE: Those who want to argue, yes we know there are single dads, there are busy parents, there are single mums who have done good job. In life, there always exceptions to the rule. So if there are single mums where they have raised great kids, and they have turned out perfectly normal, good for them, the statistics does not apply to them. But just because they are one of the rare exceptions out there, it does not disqualify the overwhelming majority of single mums out there producing kidsLink
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/19/2010 Posts: 3,504 Location: Uganda
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AlphDoti wrote:amorphous wrote:Feminism that leads to singo mama syndrome always produces very terrible results: gayism, attention seeking, "playerism" all of which lead to more singo mama syndrome. It is a vicious cycle. Kenyan celebs who are products of singo mama https://mpasho.co.ke/fro...ught-up-by-single-moms/
And the statistics carried out by the U.S Department of Health and Census prove that 85% of children with behaviour disorders come from single mother households, which it says is 20 times national average! This shows that a child needs both FATHER and MOTHER living in the house! Because when you don't have both parents, the chances of screwing in life is high! NOTE: Those who want to argue, yes we know there are single dads, there are busy parents, there are single mums who have done good job. In life, there always exceptions to the rule. So if there are single mums where they have raised great kids, and they have turned out perfectly normal, good for them, the statistics does not apply to them. But just because they are one of the rare exceptions out there, it does not disqualify the overwhelming majority of single mums out there producing kidsLink How does a father and mothers live in the same house in a polygamous setting And is it possible to marry a second wife without cheating on the first? how many modern women can give consent to a man to marry a second wife btw punda amecheka
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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newfarer wrote:AlphDoti wrote:amorphous wrote:Feminism that leads to singo mama syndrome always produces very terrible results: gayism, attention seeking, "playerism" all of which lead to more singo mama syndrome. It is a vicious cycle. Kenyan celebs who are products of singo mama https://mpasho.co.ke/fro...ught-up-by-single-moms/
And the statistics carried out by the U.S Department of Health and Census prove that 85% of children with behaviour disorders come from single mother households, which it says is 20 times national average! This shows that a child needs both FATHER and MOTHER living in the house! Because when you don't have both parents, the chances of screwing in life is high! NOTE: Those who want to argue, yes we know there are single dads, there are busy parents, there are single mums who have done good job. In life, there always exceptions to the rule. So if there are single mums where they have raised great kids, and they have turned out perfectly normal, good for them, the statistics does not apply to them. But just because they are one of the rare exceptions out there, it does not disqualify the overwhelming majority of single mums out there producing kidsLink How does a father and mothers live in the same house in a polygamous setting And is it possible to marry a second wife without cheating on the first? how many modern women can give consent to a man to marry a second wife btw @newfarer, below are answers to your questions: Wives do not have to live in same house with husband unless they (women) consent to it. Husband cannot force them. He has to have two separate houses for the women. How is marrying a second wife legally cheating? The law allows marrying more than wife in some situations. There is no cheating issue if marriage is done according to the law. As regarding consent, no woman would give consent due to their jealousy which is part of their nature and we can't blame them. Most men would prefer not to inform the first or they inform her after he has married the second since they know they can’t get a consent from the first. Bottom-line, the men have to be just while dealing with woman. Everything when done with respect and wisdom will result in peace, tranquility and patience to each other. There is not need to hide from first wife. AS man, just do due diligence and move on with life and be fair and just in all your executions.
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Rank: Member Joined: 1/22/2015 Posts: 682
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Let's not forget the abject poverty that most single mums live in, which pushes so many of them to prostitution! amorphous wrote:Feminism that leads to singo mama syndrome always produces very terrible results: gayism, attention seeking, "playerism" all of which lead to more singo mama syndrome. It is a vicious cycle. Kenyan celebs who are products of singo mama https://mpasho.co.ke/fro...ught-up-by-single-moms/
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 1/3/2014 Posts: 1,063
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So men walk around lying and impregnating women and refuse to take responsibility and women are to blame? Consistency is better than intensity
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