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Too much pressure on the Kenyan young man
UpcomingPaperChaser
#1 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 11:35:08 AM
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At 28, i am in a dilemma just like thousands of other youths out there:

1. At 28, there is pressure to start a family more so compounded when you see your former collegemates taunting their toddlers on social media.

2. You need to buy a good car, image matters. at least an NZE and above.

3. You must have completed or be in the process of acquiring post graduate education.

4. You must have one or 2 plots somewhere, for the lucky ones, if you bought early enough, you must have built.

5. Friends, relatives and parents support, at least 5k monthly.

6. You must be living in a well furnished house

Hii pressure imezidi.....dont know where to start from or where to end!!!
Enjoy every moment of your life, you never know when your time will come.
wukan
#2 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 11:44:01 AM
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wait till you get to mid-life crisis you will see pressure.

Just save as much as you can while you are still young-compound interest will be your true shelter

Then focus on getting a house everything else is secondary
kayhara
#3 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 12:28:50 PM
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1-support mum and dad, amount doesn't matter,keep them comfortable and pay their NHIF.
2-marry at your best time, trust me those guys posting babies at 28 are not doing very well,at 30+ you won't need to show off your kids.
3-get a small car,Swift,vitz,or fit,they are not heavy on your pocket and you will be driving alone most of the time.
4-instead of buying a plot now,invest in other areas say bonds, shares better still save in a Sacco when you finally get a wife now you can build, and if possible build your house in a way you can rent out some sections later, children will only be around for 10 years max,then it's back to you and your wife.
5-get bare minimum furniture,let your wife source the rest when she comes.
6-stop looking at your friends point in life, back in primary school, some of my friends dropped out and became touts they were hell loaded at that time,but are now broke.
To Each His Own
Swenani
#4 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 1:20:53 PM
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At your age, I was deeply buried in debt due to the loans I had taken out of which close to 50% was spent on alcohol and women while the other 50% spent on failed business ventures.However, these experiences taught me valuable lessons about money which are not taught in any school.

Don't be under pressure, prioritize yourself,make mistakes and do what/whoever makes you happy.
If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
winmak
#5 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 2:03:52 PM
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Nice thread... But it makes me feel old
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Ryko
#6 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 2:30:33 PM
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UpcomingPaperChaser wrote:
At 28, i am in a dilemma just like thousands of other youths out there:




1. At 28, there is pressure to start a family more so compounded when you see your former collegemates taunting their toddlers on social media.

2. You need to buy a good car, image matters. at least an NZE and above.

3. You must have completed or be in the process of acquiring post graduate education.

4. You must have one or 2 plots somewhere, for the lucky ones, if you bought early enough, you must have built.

5. Friends, relatives and parents support, at least 5k monthly.

6. You must be living in a well furnished house

Hii pressure imezidi.....dont know where to start from or where to end!!!


Boy Child suffering....Boy Child needs hope!!

Are you comparing your self with your colleagues?

If yes its a damn bumpy road ahead..the moment your begin comparing yourself you accumulate loans..you accumulate trouble...stress and the rest is history.

Well we live in a society, sometimes its difficult to avoid somethings but try avoid comparing yourself too much. There will always be someone juu yako and someone chini yako. Remember some of your colleagues are dead, you lucky you are alive appreciate..
I work so I can afford the amount of alcohol required to continue going to work
Swenani
#7 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 2:36:42 PM
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Ryko wrote:
UpcomingPaperChaser wrote:
At 28, i am in a dilemma just like thousands of other youths out there:




1. At 28, there is pressure to start a family more so compounded when you see your former collegemates taunting their toddlers on social media.

2. You need to buy a good car, image matters. at least an NZE and above.

3. You must have completed or be in the process of acquiring post graduate education.

4. You must have one or 2 plots somewhere, for the lucky ones, if you bought early enough, you must have built.

5. Friends, relatives and parents support, at least 5k monthly.

6. You must be living in a well furnished house

Hii pressure imezidi.....dont know where to start from or where to end!!!


Boy Child suffering....Boy Child needs hope!!

Are you comparing your self with your colleagues?

If yes its a damn bumpy road ahead..the moment your begin comparing yourself you accumulate loans..you accumulate trouble...stress and the rest is history.

Well we live in a society, sometimes its difficult to avoid somethings but try avoid comparing yourself too much. There will always be someone juu yako and someone chini yako. Remember some of your colleagues are dead, you lucky you are alive appreciate..


Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly
If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
UpcomingPaperChaser
#8 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 2:42:53 PM
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wukan wrote:
wait till you get to mid-life crisis you will see pressure.

Just save as much as you can while you are still young-compound interest will be your true shelter

Then focus on getting a house everything else is secondary


Thank you for your wisdom
Enjoy every moment of your life, you never know when your time will come.
UpcomingPaperChaser
#9 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 2:45:38 PM
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wukan wrote:
wait till you get to mid-life crisis you will see pressure.

Just save as much as you can while you are still young-compound interest will be your true shelter

Then focus on getting a house everything else is secondary


Thank you for your nuggets of wisdom
Enjoy every moment of your life, you never know when your time will come.
UpcomingPaperChaser
#10 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 2:48:32 PM
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kayhara wrote:
1-support mum and dad, amount doesn't matter,keep them comfortable and pay their NHIF.
2-marry at your best time, trust me those guys posting babies at 28 are not doing very well,at 30+ you won't need to show off your kids.
3-get a small car,Swift,vitz,or fit,they are not heavy on your pocket and you will be driving alone most of the time.
4-instead of buying a plot now,invest in other areas say bonds, shares better still save in a Sacco when you finally get a wife now you can build, and if possible build your house in a way you can rent out some sections later, children will only be around for 10 years max,then it's back to you and your wife.
5-get bare minimum furniture,let your wife source the rest when she comes.
6-stop looking at your friends point in life, back in primary school, some of my friends dropped out and became touts they were hell loaded at that time,but are now broke.


Thanks for your opinion, though ni kama unasuggest nijifinye sana.......but i appreciate your insights
Enjoy every moment of your life, you never know when your time will come.
UpcomingPaperChaser
#11 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 2:50:59 PM
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Swenani wrote:
At your age, I was deeply buried in debt due to the loans I had taken out of which close to 50% was spent on alcohol and women while the other 50% spent on failed business ventures.However, these experiences taught me valuable lessons about money which are not taught in any school.

Don't be under pressure, prioritize yourself,make mistakes and do what/whoever makes you happy.


you have spoken like a wise man from the east.......the good thing, i am debt free at the moment... and i am not an alcohol or ''cat'' fan
Enjoy every moment of your life, you never know when your time will come.
UpcomingPaperChaser
#12 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 2:52:36 PM
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winmak wrote:
Nice thread... But it makes me feel old


hahaha......uko third floor kwani
Enjoy every moment of your life, you never know when your time will come.
UpcomingPaperChaser
#13 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 2:54:40 PM
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Ryko wrote:
UpcomingPaperChaser wrote:
At 28, i am in a dilemma just like thousands of other youths out there:




1. At 28, there is pressure to start a family more so compounded when you see your former collegemates taunting their toddlers on social media.

2. You need to buy a good car, image matters. at least an NZE and above.

3. You must have completed or be in the process of acquiring post graduate education.

4. You must have one or 2 plots somewhere, for the lucky ones, if you bought early enough, you must have built.

5. Friends, relatives and parents support, at least 5k monthly.

6. You must be living in a well furnished house

Hii pressure imezidi.....dont know where to start from or where to end!!!


Boy Child suffering....Boy Child needs hope!!

Are you comparing your self with your colleagues?

If yes its a damn bumpy road ahead..the moment your begin comparing yourself you accumulate loans..you accumulate trouble...stress and the rest is history.

Well we live in a society, sometimes its difficult to avoid somethings but try avoid comparing yourself too much. There will always be someone juu yako and someone chini yako. Remember some of your colleagues are dead, you lucky you are alive appreciate..


This is how i console myself all the time. I live a very simplistic lifestyle, in good health, no complex issues in my life and I live a day at a time......this has kept me pushing
Enjoy every moment of your life, you never know when your time will come.
Muthawamunene
#14 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 3:35:46 PM
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wukan wrote:
wait till you get to mid-life crisis you will see pressure.

Just save as much as you can while you are still young-compound interest will be your true shelter

Then focus on getting a house everything else is secondary


The wisdom here is immeasurable.

I also add this;
- Have a vision and motivate yourself. Define where you want to be at various time measures. Define this so clearly e.g I want to have 500,000/= in passive income by age this. Surround yourself with people and content that reminds you of your vision. I highly recommend alux.com on youtube and elsewhere.

- Formulate a credible plan on how to work towards that vision. SWOT analysis and SMART goals.

- Get the right education. That postgraduate degree is nice and will get some doors unlocked but financial and economic education is the main focus here. I have made thousands and have watched millions being made here on the back of simple common sense and discipline. The academic education provides capital, but self-education in business, finance and economics will multiply that capital many times over. Look for posts by Karasinga, the guy on Elliot wave analysis, StockMaster, Cde Monomopata, the posts on real estate, the posts on business failure etc

- Have mentors. They don't even have to know they are your mentors, but get interested in them. How did they make their wealth? What projects are they doing now? How have they failed? and If you have the courage, get rid of the ego and get into contact with them.

- Find a good woman who can adopt your vision or whose vision you can adopt. Pole pole. Do not be scared to be lonely. This is the greatest investment you will ever make as a heterosexual male who intends to get married. Make sure communication between the both of you is near flawless on issues such as child birth, standards of living, goals and vision.

- Understand that health, time and compound interest are your best friends. Love them first before loving anyone and anything else.

Do this, and 10 years from now, your will thank yourself for not giving a shit about what your other 28 year olds are doing.
muganda
#15 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 3:39:54 PM
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Waaah! Spare a moment to go through https://twitter.com/hash...nyakundisaidno?f=images empowering Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly

The day the Kenyan young man decides to think with his head first is the day he will begin the journey to liberation.
UpcomingPaperChaser
#16 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 3:51:11 PM
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Muthawamunene wrote:
wukan wrote:
wait till you get to mid-life crisis you will see pressure.

Just save as much as you can while you are still young-compound interest will be your true shelter

Then focus on getting a house everything else is secondary


The wisdom here is immeasurable.

I also add this;
- Have a vision and motivate yourself. Define where you want to be at various time measures. Define this so clearly e.g I want to have 500,000/= in passive income by age this. Surround yourself with people and content that reminds you of your vision. I highly recommend alux.com on youtube and elsewhere.

- Formulate a credible plan on how to work towards that vision. SWOT analysis and SMART goals.

- Get the right education. That postgraduate degree is nice and will get some doors unlocked but financial and economic education is the main focus here. I have made thousands and have watched millions being made here on the back of simple common sense and discipline. The academic education provides capital, but self-education in business, finance and economics will multiply that capital many times over. Look for posts by Karasinga, the guy on Elliot wave analysis, StockMaster, Cde Monomopata, the posts on real estate, the posts on business failure etc

- Have mentors. They don't even have to know they are your mentors, but get interested in them. How did they make their wealth? What projects are they doing now? How have they failed? and If you have the courage, get rid of the ego and get into contact with them.

- Find a good woman who can adopt your vision or whose vision you can adopt. Pole pole. Do not be scared to be lonely. This is the greatest investment you will ever make as a heterosexual male who intends to get married. Make sure communication between the both of you is near flawless on issues such as child birth, standards of living, goals and vision.

- Understand that health, time and compound interest are your best friends. Love them first before loving anyone and anything else.

Do this, and 10 years from now, your will thank yourself for not giving a shit about what your other 28 year olds are doing.


Good stuff here bro, you have spoken like 10 elders of Nchuri Ncheke, thank you for your wise words.... i will do that.
Enjoy every moment of your life, you never know when your time will come.
UpcomingPaperChaser
#17 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 3:52:41 PM
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muganda wrote:
Waaah! Spare a moment to go through https://twitter.com/hash...nyakundisaidno?f=images empowering Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly

The day the Kenyan young man decides to think with his head first is the day he will begin the journey to liberation.


Thank you, right away
Enjoy every moment of your life, you never know when your time will come.
Swenani
#18 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 3:55:58 PM
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muganda wrote:
Waaah! Spare a moment to go through https://twitter.com/hash...nyakundisaidno?f=images empowering Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly

The day the Kenyan young man decides to think with his head first is the day he will begin the journey to liberation.

Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly
If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
Fullykenyan
#19 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 5:57:44 PM
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kayhara wrote:
1-support mum and dad, amount doesn't matter,keep them comfortable and pay their NHIF.
2-marry at your best time, trust me those guys posting babies at 28 are not doing very well,at 30+ you won't need to show off your kids.
3-get a small car,Swift,vitz,or fit,they are not heavy on your pocket and you will be driving alone most of the time.
4-instead of buying a plot now,invest in other areas say bonds, shares better still save in a Sacco when you finally get a wife now you can build, and if possible build your house in a way you can rent out some sections later, children will only be around for 10 years max,then it's back to you and your wife.
5-get bare minimum furniture,let your wife source the rest when she comes.
6-stop looking at your friends point in life, back in primary school, some of my friends dropped out and became touts they were hell loaded at that time,but are now broke.

I had to laugh loud at point number six. You are very right
Shak
#20 Posted : Thursday, December 21, 2017 6:47:51 PM
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UpcomingPaperChaser wrote:
At 28, i am in a dilemma just like thousands of other youths out there:

1. At 28, there is pressure to start a family more so compounded when you see your former collegemates taunting their toddlers on social media.

2. You need to buy a good car, image matters. at least an NZE and above.

3. You must have completed or be in the process of acquiring post graduate education.

4. You must have one or 2 plots somewhere, for the lucky ones, if you bought early enough, you must have built.

5. Friends, relatives and parents support, at least 5k monthly.

6. You must be living in a well furnished house

Hii pressure imezidi.....dont know where to start from or where to end!!!

Allow me to add the following:
Draw up a budget and do your best to abide by it
Spoil yourself from time to time.
Don't borrow to buy a depreciating asset like a car. If you must borrow, at least have most of the money for it already saved up.
Set financial goals- don't just save without a long term plan
Have multiple income streams. You'll need more money over the years to fund the same lifestyle due to inflation

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