...yes...if you suffer from inferiority complex. I listened to a sermon live on Citizen on Sunday from House of Grace Church (why has Citizen moved from Mavuno?) and the sermon was about this subject. I would say it was a very nice sermon. If you are a Class 7 dropout and you marry an MBA, what do you expect? The man will never be happy...there has to be some compatibility. When the learned lady talks about stocks and shares, the man may think this is a new type of a local brew!!!

@ atiriri. Such a man is not worth the salt of being a husband.

I think dudes are just weird when it comes to the woman's success. Probably they feel embarrassed if the woman is doing better than them. Like in the case of Wangari Maathai and her husband.According to her book, the dude felt threatened because she was a whole professor and was making it big (i don't know But it happens)and decided to leave her. That's why many men will want their women to quit their jobs and stay at home. luckily there are quite a number of men who appreciate the role of a hardworking career woman especially in this tough economy .

(was also wondering what happened to mavuno on citizen)

Hi guys,just from a long tour of parts of Ug good 2 be back hm!

Painting with a broad brush, I don think dudes are weird - its just the way we are socialised in a patriarchal society to believe that the man brings the bacon - in abundance - home, and so anything to the contrary is unsettling to both parties.

now that this set up is being replaced by a matriarchal society...in future it will be odd if a man earns more than the wife!

I think very highly of the role of women as mothers who nurture their family (children and husband) by providing nutritious foods and a tender loving home. As homekeepers who transform a house into a home and make it a place to look forward to after a long day out in the world. As the first teachers of children who teach their children how to be respectful and how to treat others. As lovers who provide a gentle comfort from the hard knocks of business or work etc.

I am not married yet but when that time comes this is what i will be looking for in a wife. I will NOT be looking for a business partner or an investment adviser, drinking buddy or someone to discuss politics and the ramifications of global warming with. On the other hand I will not expect her to ever worry about such things as having a roof above her head, food, clothes, makeup or the education of our children. That will be taken care of by me and I do not want or need any help. This is the only marriage in which I can function and I am not going to lie to myself that I can survive in an equal relationship.

I have no right to come back home and put my feet on the table and expect a hot meal when I have just walked in with my wife from work. Yet I want to do exactly that, walk in, put up my feet and get a hot meal. I don't know if girls who go to University and study to become lawyers and doctors and other high flying positions do that with the aim of waiting on their husbands at home. They definitely are not. While their education is commendable and is something that I would desire for my daughter or sister it does not add any value to the function of wife, mother, homekeeper or lover as I see it.

Does this mean that I am jealous of "successful" career women? I don't think so. It just means that she is not the type that I can live with because I will not be useful to her neither her to me. Yes I used the word useful, I want to be valuable to someone and she to me because we serve complementary functions in the family not similar ones.

Though am single i would rather marry a lady who is always looking for success , eager to try out several investment opportunities available,and willing to engage in fruitful competition with me,other than a lady who will just be a couch potato who does nothing in the house other than scolding at you when u try to hustle!!
@chepkel-- wangaris husband ran away because of the PHD...?? funny

I guess it all boils down to the kind of mother figure who brought you up.

My mother was a working mother untill she retired from the civil service. In this regard, I do not think I would be comfortable with a non working spouse.

In as far as more income than mine is concerned I guess if she spends a large portion on the needs of the family, then I would have no problem.

I do appreciate @Kusadika's honesty on this matter. He is deep.

atiriri- no unless ni ile na ya mabebe.
The hubby must appresiate the wife kama akipata success, you give her two extra ones

Someone must wonder why career women are sometimes replaced as wives by their illiterate mboches. Take note of what Kusadikika says. It is natural instincts for a man to value being taken care of. In a case where a career woman delegates all the responsibilities of taking care of the man other than in the bedroom to the mboch, the man could easily be tempted to replace her even in the bedroom with the woman who does the rest, after all they are both women.

The best arrangement for me would be a career/working woman who balances taking care of me and her other work...a hard find but possible.

@Kusadikika
Contrary to the way you present your idea of marriage, it actually sounds like a business partnership rather than a loving, fulfilling relationship. The emphasis in your description is the functionality of the marriage - too much emphasis on designated roles. The starting point of marriage is friendship (or at least that what I would like to believe). In your case friendship, shared interests do not appear to figure at all. I wonder what will be the glue when you go thro rough patches of life - those delineated functions of husband and wife?