What's the purpose of a wedding if you can't afford one? Do people really have to have a wedding? It's ok if you can afford to feed people who will later on criticize everything from the venue, the food and the cake that you worked so hard to organize for, lol, but if you can't afford one, is it really worth it to run around helter skelter fund-raising and inconveniencing people to contribute money just so you can say that you had a wedding that people will forget about after two months anyway? Do the people who got married love each other more than those who didn't? I actually think that even if you can afford it, most weddings are a waste of time and a subtle way of bragging. But I have never been known to be conventional, so there.

You mean big weddings.

A colleague did a wedding the other day kwa AG. In attendance were just 2 witnesses

I honestly think that's the best way to do it.

I have an employee who is planning his wedding and he has been getting on my nerves a lot. I have already lent him my car severally to go to the in-laws, given him cash advances that i let slide at the end of the month, he wants me to be chairman of his committee which is basically telling me that he expects me to contribute a huge chunk of my money. He wants me to use my connections to get him a good venue, a wedding planner, am like, "is this supposed to be my wedding or what?". I am at the point where I really feel like telling him to cut his cloth according to his size or just forget the whole thing altogether.

I can help Kidogo, i am ok with that, but i feel like some people take advantage of this wedding business to really inconvenience others with wedding committees and cash donations because they feel like they are entitled since they are having a wedding and we have to help out, whether we like it or not. If people can't do some things for themselves, then it's not a must you have a wedding. It's not a matter of life and death.

When my time comes, I will happily go to the AG and seal the deal there. The millions that I would have spent on a wedding to feed strangers and relatives, half of whom i don't like anyway, will look good in my bank account.

I hate to throw my employee under the bus because he is a good guy but this wedding nonsense is making him irrational and putting unnecessary pressure on him to pull off something he clearly can't afford. Sasa inakuwa shida yangu.

I am inclined towards a small wedding but I have painfully come to acknowledge that big weddings with a committee preceded by those useless milking trips to in-laws are part of our culture

I do not withhold help for those I like as a result.

But i still dislike the culture

There is a difference between whining and starting a discussion for people to debate. Stop attacking the messenger and contribute to the topic. Topic is about weddings and not hamburglar. Kapish?

Why do I have a feeling that I am really resented around here? Attacks from all directions. Lol.