good pple,am very stressed because i feel like life has nt been fair to mi.i had an accident that left mi physically challenged 15yrs ago but that has not hindered my desire to pursue my goals infact am an mba student.the hard part is the love bit,i have neva had anyone to love or anyone to love mi back.i have my little money n now i want a family just dont know how to go abt it.i have not seen a he who wants anything to do with mi.i feel ugly n hopeless.i have prayed so much n hard n now dont know what to do?shud i just start a single hand family or hold on to hope?
i have also not accepted my physical condition,i feel like am a criminal when pple look at mi,i feel sad,i cry am so so lost.
what is yua take on this n with a kind heart?

am not a new user,just registered to ask this.

@And1589
thanks

Dear Miss Madam,
you are in this world for a purpose!
Everything will be fine.
Most important is that already you know your weakeness and your strengths.
For all that matters,someone out there loves you,not for how you look but from the kindness of your heart.
I know you are kind.
You will get out of this.
look up and smile and everything will just work out.
Prayer never fails,the results dont come when you want,its when God wants.
Dont be scared of anything.Live like nothing happened.Be positive.
i will be patiently waiting for the good news and when the bells ring,please dial my number!

Have a nice weekend and God bless you.

I get the feeling ur problem is not so much physical but really psychological. All these limitations are in your mind. Not body.
you say you are ugly, hopeless and have not accepted yourself to-date. That u cry when others look at you. This wallowing in the miasma of self-pity is destructive and doesn't help you at all because you become too self-conscious, very sensitive to your physical condition - a condition that makes you imagine others are looking at you in the same light. Remember people's perception of you is sana sana determined by your self-perception and how you 'carry' yourself around. Look at Vujicic, he focuses so much on the positives that people forget he's disabled and regard him as a motivational speaker. Examples are many - our local musician late King Kong a lot of pips loved his music and never knew he was disabled until they saw him or his videos. Ditto Stevie Wonder.They concentrated on what he could do.
Firstly, u need to accept yourself before others accept u.
Although you are now here now as physically disabled, there's some undertones in your thread that suggest that mentally you are still where u were (physically fit) many many years ago.
U r living & re-living in the past. Fast-forward to 2010 plse. Now!
Consider pyschological counselling at any of the many counselling centres around so that mentally/ psychologically you are sync with your physical condition.
secondly, love must be within us before it is given. U have to love yourself and this love will radiate outside, and boomerang back to you...
fourthly, just be positive and participate in many social forums to boost your confidence in addition to your studies. Mingle with like-minded disabled & non-disabled folks from the Association of Physically Disabled of Kenya,etc to cultivate a positive self-image of yourself. This will avoid u giving u all those lots of time that u spend inward-looking at yourself.
thirdly and hardest, you many slowly start to embrace the idea of singlehood and its joys positively.

Lastly, and can I be frank?:tutakuchapa ukiendelea na hii maneno ya self-pity.

thanks very much i really appreciate yua concern.@muganda,i do compliance and that is my talent cos i do it with such passion,for the hobby,am yet to find anything interesting besides school n job.
Asanteni sana.

@bamba, start each day with a smile knowing that God has a great plan for you in all aspects{career, life, personal growth etc }. You are Beautiful and God's own creation. Let go of the past and approach the present with confidence and NEVER give up on pray.
Speak to yourself positive thoughts and enjoy each day. Imagine what would happen if you added a broad smile, high self-esteem and your kind heart.