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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2009 Posts: 26,330 Location: Masada
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Thats why we have always reminded our ladies to allow us to marry them and raise the children together.This lifestyle of looking for an impregnator should be resisted at all cost. Shindwe!!!! Portfolio: Sold
You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/2/2009 Posts: 2,458 Location: Nairobi
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were it not for the pain the mother and family is going thru.. i would have laughed my self off
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/17/2008 Posts: 23,365 Location: Nairobi
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IMPUNITY is back, lol!!!! ..."Wewe ni mtu mdogo sana....na mwenye amekuandika pia ni mtu mdogo sana!".
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Rank: Member Joined: 10/17/2008 Posts: 338 Location: Kenya
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@Impunity you have just committed a fallacy. How many cases like the one for Esther have you encountered?..only one i know and that does not give you reason to concluded that what happened was as a result of being brought up by a single Mum.  Think the unthinkable but wear a dark suit
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/18/2008 Posts: 3,434 Location: Kerugoya
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On no you don't! Whatever happens, keep our Maitus out of this. Unprintable
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Rank: Member Joined: 10/6/2009 Posts: 164
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@ Impunity
That is a big brush you are painting with.
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Rank: Member Joined: 7/22/2008 Posts: 851 Location: nairobi
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this is an interesting angle, howbeit significant. yes. research has already shown that girls end up marrying a father figure and vice versa. the parent of the opposite sex acts as a marking scheme for the qualities one looks for in a marriage partner. by spending time with an elderly married couple, ms arunga may be compensating for the ideal family she never had in childhood. these are some of the factors that make people abandon thier families for little known religious organisations........... but what do i see n this forum? people who are afraid to discuss an issue but would rather resort to emotional blackmail to sweep the issue under the carpet
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Rank: New-farer Joined: 1/18/2010 Posts: 20 Location: kenya
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It is very unfair for you to conclude that this is as a result of the mother being a single parent. In any case men contribute Highly to women being single parents by refusing to take up responsibilities. In any case Esther is 30 yrs old and we can see that the mother has done a gd job by providing her with gd education. Her mess shold not be blamed on the mother.
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Rank: Member Joined: 12/7/2009 Posts: 320 Location: nairobi
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It is so unfair to judge single mothers harshly. I have seen children who are raised by single mothers and they are role models in the society. Do you want to say that those woman who have abandoned their wifely duties to pray for their dead pastors to ressurect have been brought up by single mothers. Arunga has just been brainwashed, let her stand up for her actions and the mother should not be blamed at all aaaah.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 9/15/2006 Posts: 3,907
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@murenj, agree with your challenge on single mothers. But definitely not as it relates to Esther - broad strokes, wrong coat, painter without a clue!!!
That is a family of high achievers and professionals, very well brought up kids by both mother and father. Easy to talk about things when they're distant and remote - not personal and close and relating to oneself.
Now about single mothers, not very different from both parents. The mates people choose can always be linked to upbringing / parent's personality in both cases.
I'd assume children brought up by single parent would generally be more responsible due to challenge. But hats off go to single mothers, they do a fab job!!!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2009 Posts: 26,330 Location: Masada
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Huyu Esther ako na some siblings kweli?Like younger siz at say 25 years? Portfolio: Sold
You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/1/2009 Posts: 2,436
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muganda wrote:But hats off go to single mothers, they do a fab job!!! In the same vein kudos to single fathers, I have seen them do a fab job too! Its tough for our sisters being single women, nobody says XYZ turned out like this or that because he/ she was raised by a single dad!!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/2/2009 Posts: 2,458 Location: Nairobi
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lets face it... In general from my observations(where i live and schoolmates) Most,BUT NOT ALL, children brought up by one parent are hazardous to society.. more so worse if brought up by single mother...
lest anybody mention Barak Obama in defence.. the mother remarried
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/23/2009 Posts: 2,375
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and its worse when its a single child coz the mum's world revolves around him/her. in the end they think the whole world should treat them the same. It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt...
-Mark Twain
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/30/2006 Posts: 635
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I lean towards those who say kids brought up by single mothers have a problem. Chicks especially who have, from their childhood, never encountered a man's way of doing things find it quite hard to adopt. They grew up being pampered and have probably never known the word 'no' said with authority. Woe unto any dude who dates them...from experience, its a nightmare even to make decisions with them.
Dudes brought up by single mothers are spoilt and irresponsible. Many are known not to take responsibility (living with mom till 40) and may exhibit strong affinity for relationships where the woman is the provider. Initially, they may be very attractive to date for women coz they're basically very girly and will not exert control in a relationship. The downside comes when bread has to be put on the table or when hard decisions have to be made....the dudes will simply be quite slippery
In the end, I also believe that someones individual nature contributes significantly to their xter and therefore upbringing contributes only a fraction
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Rank: Member Joined: 1/9/2007 Posts: 219
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Just because you come from a single family is not an excuse to be irresponsible.Matheri came from a nuclear family and he was a criminal.It's the high time men learn to take responsibility and acknowledge their children even those that are as a result of their extra marital affairs / sexual escapades.To all single women out there Hat's off.
@ Impunity - R u married?
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Rank: New-farer Joined: 1/29/2010 Posts: 3
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Single parents do a great job,be more careful with conclusions
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 3/16/2009 Posts: 1,464
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Mukaju........I agree with you fully
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Rank: Member Joined: 10/6/2009 Posts: 164
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You can be raised by both parents who are jackasses and still turn out to be a melon so your logic of blaming single parenting does not fly.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/1/2009 Posts: 2,436
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Just to clear the air, know ye all men that:
- Esther's dad is alive. She was therefore brought up in a 2-parent/nuclear family home,
- Esther is actually Luo,not Luhya.
- Esther is the only girl of the 3 kids her parents had; one of her bros works as a medical officer in a referral hosi in Kenya.
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