My fellow friends,

what can make you men loose interest in your wives? Your wives that you once adore, loved and cared for.

There is this man who married ten years ago. they kulad shida before they got a job. During those days the guy really loved the wife that he could do anything for her. it was wife first and then him second. After around four years the wife got and a job and then he too got a job as an odijo. He was posted in ushago while the wife remained in Nairobi. Five years down the line, the man does not love her anymore. He is just there because he has to. Could this man be cheating on his wife.

what could have made him loose interesti in her.

"could this man be cheating on his wife" is a rhetorical question. How many times must you be told "all men are the same" before it penetrates? Did you watch Bill Clinton denying he has hanyad in front of the whole world with a very straight face? The only lady who seems to get this is Judy Thongori with that marriage bill that recognizes our natural nature. For the last time, yes we all hanyaa!

cheating only occur when you are presented with an opportunity and few inherent risk.Long distance relationship are susceptible to cheating because one has ample opportunities and only trust,self control and respect can help in such a cases.

Pole atiriri about your hurting friend. There are very many theories about why we "cheat" on our women. The rule is "innocent until caught pants down". What i can tell you is that it is a stark reality that we will once in a while stray. I think the best thing for your friend is not to try and revenge for the sake of revenge but to continue loving her man especially if he is not abusing her. Loss of sexual interest in a wife by a man is not a loss of interest/love in the wife. If she feels sexually starved, it is not real sexual starvation as in the case of a man but rather a need for intimacy with her man which she will find she can resolve in other ways without sex. Let her talk to almost any older woman and once they open up she will find the older woman has the same experience, and almost all women in the world.
Assist her find frank ways to open up and express her fears without fighting, but if he is an abusive man, she is better of without him.

@2012 - with such good points, let me know if you are vying in 2012 so i can align myself accordingly.

aemathenge

Apologies accepted. I am a woman but i am not the "wife". The "wife is a good friend of mine.

Atiriri, advice is the cheapest service/comodity that you can get since everybody has an opinion. Each case is unique and thus cannot be replicated in every situation.

As such dont ask men why they loose interest in their wives coz each has a story to tell. You as the "best friend" of the agrieved party have also to a large extent contributed to their current problem. Its like you have proof that indeed the husband is cheating and now you are consoling her.'acting good to her'

Personally i wouldnt be confortable with my wife if she has some noosy friend(s) who acts as saviors of other marriages when they are either not married or have marriage problems themselves. I hope you dont fall in that category.

As far as i know, aaah , she is committed to her marriage. Anapenda bwanake sana.

Wendz
Si many men here confessed about how easily tents are put up even by strangers in town. On the other hand a "lady" has to be sweet talked for 2 hours and rubbed for like 15 minutes before machine iamuke.

This leads me to the conclusion sex for a woman is more for intimacy (making love) so she can vumilia unlike for a man which is dealing with an urge na kuvumilia ni ngumu.

They need to solve their problem together it might be most of the times wako mbali and no time to talk and cultivate their relationship...Both might be suspecting one another of cheating.Marriage has many challenges and only the wife and husband can overcome them by being wise and expressing themself to one another freely.......The word is communication