@Marine,it does not necessarily mean that the lady is seeing someone else (there is a possibility she is) but there are key things you need to note

1. A lady at 18 and the same person at 26 are two totally different people,infact strangers,as one grows up and matures,priorities change,likes and dislikes change etc.
2. The other factor here could be a change in lifestyle,wen i was 18 i didnt hav a job,but at 26 i do have one,am able to take care of all my needs etc,this matters too,especially if u were the one taking care of all these.

3.The time you have taken to make that decision about marriage is questionable,personally i knew someone for 8 yrs and in those 8 yrs i hadnt gone to see his parents officially,i only visited his sick dad in hospital,met one of the bros and one of the sisters,a time came i had to make a choice,go on with a r/ship whose direction i wasnt sure i know or move on,start afresh where i could see direction.

4. Distance is the greatest enemy in any r/ship,it could be the one working against you,find a way of spending more time together if possible.

5.At 26,believe me every one of her high skul n college friends are wedding,left right center,hurry up man.

The real measure of your wealth is how much you'd be worth if you lost all your money. ~Author Unknown

Let us know what becomes of this relationship,because its sometimes hard to understand what's going on inside a woman when she starts having such attitude changes. The funny thing is that they will not tell you what is exactly happening,so you are left confused and making assumptions. Chics can be difficult!

without a vision,a people perish

@Wendz,

I won't be suprised either. It has happened before when we were going through a particularly tough period. Back then i didn't see the need to prolong a long argument saw i promptly agreed i had changed and committed to would refocus myself.

I am scheduled to have dinner with my potential mum-in-law later today and i have decided to let her know things are not so good on the relationship. Would you advise this?

I have never been this confused in my life.


The mind is everything. What you think you become

Your potential mother in law has no role in this. Sort out issues with your girlfriend!

well,i didn't think i had much to add coz i thought intelligentsia,alphadot,sparkly,willin2learn,CLK had already said all the good advice i would have said,(heed their advice). until you said that you were to discuss this with the your potential mother in law. NO!. dinner or no dinner,shouldn't you have sorted this out with the chic prior?
since am posting this post-dinner,i hope you followed mpenzi's advice not to discuss with mother in law. tell us how it went.