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kick my a*s! then advice me
Kamaa
#21 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 12:26:00 PM
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and how do you know it is in good working condition...?

then get a life with those whom you tested its condition with....

When you run so fast to get somewhere,you miss the fun of getting there... Life is not a race,so take it slowly....
When you hear what I say, you will not understand. When you see what I do, you will not comprehend
Ericks
#22 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 12:33:00 PM
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if the topic or ur name is anything to go by then i pressume you've heard someone say that almost never counts..... shuma getting hot aint an indicator to any serious commitment or bond for that matter,it gets hot along some interesting streets yet u might not want the light of day to find u there....

Get to know em bro.... or as @ kamaa says get a life with those u already know......

Its just me
whatever choice you make in life make sure that you can live with it.
McReggae
#23 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 12:39:00 PM
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3 months,3 online ladies,3 dates with them during the same period and already you wanna commit to one!!!!

How the other real ladies you've dated and known for longer!!!!!


The chief value of money lies in the fact that one lives in a world in which it is overestimated.
..."Wewe ni mtu mdogo sana....na mwenye amekuandika pia ni mtu mdogo sana!".
The Real Shaft
#24 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 12:46:00 PM
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how do you say good bye....???

is that the question...???

say....

g-o-o-d b-y-e....... good bye....

or in Kiswahili.....

kwa heri....

I'm the real Massey F.....shut your mouth
I'm the real Massey Fergu...... Shut your mouth....
fundamilia
#25 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 12:56:00 PM
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I have had two ladies in the past. They are now history and have moved on with their lives. 3months might be a short time but considering i talk on phone for long durations with each one of them,i can say i know them a little bit. I have a feeling that if let this go further,i will start giving lame excuses whenever they wanna meet or start avoiding picking their phone calls whenever i'm with the other lady. Also remember december is not far away and each one will want to be with me during the many december holidays
Benzino
#26 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 1:12:00 PM
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Flee and don't look back.
kingfisher
#27 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 2:55:00 PM
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the @TRS has spoken.......its that simple man

If you have money that you expect to start using in five years,it now belongs in stocks.
When I have money, I get rid of it quickly, lest it find a way into my heart.
Kaigangio
#28 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 3:17:00 PM
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@ fundamilia,

you made a mistake in multiple dating to start with...whether you say goodbye softly or not will not make any difference at all,since you will be parting ways with one at a time....tell them outrightly and face the consequencies....


NEVER TALK OF A RHINO IF THERE IS NO TREE NEAREBY - ZULU PROVERB
...besides, the presence of a safe alone does not signify that there is money inside...
fundamilia
#29 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 3:40:00 PM
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thanks everyone for the candid opinions. @wendz,leona,wendz,lynne and all the ladies in the sk community,what would be the most humane way to receive the sad news if you were in the shoes of the two ladies? Would you prefer it via a phone call? Face to face meeting in a restaurant? Is it ok if i suggest that we still keep in touch (but not daily) even after delivering the bad news to you?
Lyra
#30 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 4:03:00 PM
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From a ladies point of view - Its better to be honest and break the news over a cup of coffee or lunch. Its only fair to let one know the truth than lead the person on when nothing will be forthcoming. Just what will be your reasons...... ihave been triple dating you dudettesys and now i have made up my mind........... what if the one you choose turns out not to be what you think...... would you want to go back to one of the the 2 dumpees..... pls think about it carefully since the decision you make will be binding. A few tears will be there but who said life is fair.... thats the way life is. Wouldnt want to be in your shoes.... but then life has to go on.




'Do all the good you can,by all the means you can,in all the ways you can,
in all the places you can,to all the people you can,as long as ever you can'.
John Wesley
English Preacher (1703-1791)
'Do all the good you can,by all the means you can,in all the ways you can,
in all the places you can,to all the people you can,as long as ever you can'.
John Wesley
English Preacher (1703-1791)
dsgnplus
#31 Posted : Tuesday, October 06, 2009 4:24:00 PM
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@samsa has something there...allow me to add my 2 cents. At 30 I cannot blieve it has come to this. dont be in a rush. u dont want to jump in then look back in regret a couple of years later. get input also from your old folks... they just might see things that you will never see...
Mumbi
#32 Posted : Wednesday, October 07, 2009 5:02:00 AM
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There is no one nice way of rejecting someone......just say it.

hot stepper
Kamaa
#33 Posted : Wednesday, October 07, 2009 7:36:00 AM
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@ ngwono

that is a good piece of advise...

@ fundamilia

'no wi tuire funda..'

When you run so fast to get somewhere,you miss the fun of getting there... Life is not a race,so take it slowly....
When you hear what I say, you will not understand. When you see what I do, you will not comprehend
Ken K
#34 Posted : Wednesday, October 07, 2009 7:37:00 AM
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I have your answer.

Introduce me to all three. I will tell you the way forward.
Mali
#35 Posted : Wednesday, October 07, 2009 7:49:00 AM
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my 2 cents..... Subject each of them to some sort of ''hardship''.. i.e start changing by ''acting'' that things r not well,and life is taking some turns.. share with each of them the same scenario (to ensure you don't get mixed up)

keep the ''hardships'' coming.. cut off calls (let them call you.. beg to see you) keep the pressure for abt 4 weeks... don't ask for help,just claim things r not well.. keep a low profile

If any of them is still trying hard to help.. LUCKY.. is you new NAME!

if the incompetent and the reckless compete,the result is a disaster.. MN
ngwono
#36 Posted : Wednesday, October 07, 2009 8:05:00 AM
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(d) Look at their life styles.How do they live with their own pple,Are they kind of ladies who just enjoy life alone without caring for the other members of their families.Charity begins at home.If she treat their pple well,she will treat you and you family members well.



Jesus Said,'If you abide in Me,and My Words abide in you,you will ask what you desire,and it shsll be done for you' (Jhn 15:7)
kingfisher
#37 Posted : Wednesday, October 07, 2009 8:48:00 AM
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There were minor hiccups and delays,but when Milton Mbhele and his four brides stepped out of their limousine and held hands,there was a sense of triumph on the groom's face.


On Saturday,Mbhele exchanged vows with his four brides,sealing each 'I do' with a kiss in a packed marquee at Weenen,near Ladysmit

'This is a dream come true for me. After all the planning and hard work,I am glad to see the day finally arriving,' the exhausted-looking Mbhele said.

Explaining the decision to marry his four brides at once,Mbhele,the municipal manager of the Indaka local municipality,said economic considerations had been at play. 'This tent costs R45 000. Separate weddings to the four ladies would therefore have set me back by close to R200 000 for the venue alone,so I chose this option and frankly I think it was a good move,' he said.

While aware of the publicity his wedding has generated,Mbhele did not say that his move would encourage other men to follow suit.

'In the end,as a man you must do what puts you at ease and the best that you can do is to stay original,' he said.

One guest at the wedding said he had arrived to see what he thought was a prank.

'This is a man among men. Even His Majesty King Goodwill (Zwelithini),with his many wives,has never married more than one bride at once,' said the man,who would not be named.

The brides,clearly surprised at the huge turnout,presented a united front,each one saying she was unmoved by the prospect of being in a polygamous marriage.

'The important thing is that we get along and respect each other.

'We believe that this arrangement is going to work out without much difficulty,' said Smangele Cele,23,the youngest of the four brides.

She said she was looking forward to marrying Mbhele,although it means she will have to share him.

She said the wives planned to live separately,and take turns spending time with their husband.

The women,resplendent in their white gowns,each received a ring and a kiss from the groom at Saturday's Christian ceremony.

Yesterday,the families gathered for a second traditional Zulu wedding and said that they planned to exchange gifts today.

Mbhele has already been married to Thobile Vilakazi,one of the four brides,for 12 years and has 11 children.

He did not specify who their mothers were.

'I want her to be happy,' he said of Vilakazi,who was given a gold wristwatch at Saturday's ceremony. 'I think getting married to her for the second time would make her happy since I will be taking in three other wives,so this will relieve her in some way.'

The other wives were Zanele Langa and Happiness Mdlolo,both 24,and Cele. South African law recognises traditional polygamous marriages,but while polygamy remains common among several tribes,including the Zulus and Swazis,simultaneous weddings seldom occur.



If you have money that you expect to start using in five years,it now belongs in stocks.
When I have money, I get rid of it quickly, lest it find a way into my heart.
FundamentAli
#38 Posted : Wednesday, October 07, 2009 9:07:00 AM
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Go quiet on the two but keep them as friends. Wait until you hear from the dumped onescomplaining umenitupa sana. Go offline for weeks or mark yourselve as logged out if you chat online. Give excuses for proposed date. Disappear slowly. It works.

Baada ya dhiki,faaraja
fundamilia
#39 Posted : Wednesday, October 07, 2009 1:35:00 PM
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thanks everyone for sharing. Now the ball is in my court. Its a tough decision to make but with God's help,hopefully i'll make a decision i wont regret later. Asanteni sana
cxz
#40 Posted : Wednesday, October 07, 2009 2:36:00 PM
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Since you have said they are career women,pretend to be in a financial emergency and borrow 10k from the two you want to tell goodbye. There is a high chance you will never hear from them again

'A stone is heavy,and the sand weighty; but a fool's wrath is heavier than them both.' (Proverbs 27:3).
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