@mtaalam

now suppose you were in my shoes what would you do.I would also not wish to continue hating him but the only thing i would not want to do is to give him another chance.With all honesty,if i was to revange by now i could have blackmailed him proper because i know what he fears is shame.But you see that will not help me,what am thinking of is how i can cut the link with him completely so that he may not get any room to hurt me further.He left for Sudan in Mid-Aug and will be back after 6month.Though he promised that when he comes,he will organise for a wedding so that we may stay together officially as a hisband & wife which i do not beliebe,to me those are just word maybe he thought by giving me such a promise would motivate me to do an a bortion .I have gotten very good advises from sk,but according to the way you are putting it is like you are encouraging me to continue with the afair,if only you could be on my shoes.Anyway,may God help me to overcome the hatred


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@newmember

Heart aches last for as long let them to and cut as deep as you let them go. Him saying he will arrange for a wedding in six months time could be an excuse for you terminate the pregnancy. He may have made a calculated bluff cause i presume you are around a couple of months after conception so by quating six months time you will be heavily pregnant and having a wedding is unlikely or you wont like the idea while in that state cause alot would be happening in your body ranging from hormonal changes etc. Here in UK i've seen Couples getting ahead and get married when one of the spouse is heavily pregnant cause they want their not to be outside the wedlock but in your case i dont see that happening. If he really does want the idea of marriage to go ahead then he should be able to do it a few months after birth. That is if he really does fancy you that much. You dont have to do anything,and he should not only give you words let him show with actions,take your stand let him know the idea of a wedding in six months time aint gonnah happen but a few month after birth could do. Then leave him to it,but i'll warn you,do this if only you wanna give him that second chance. But if you dont wanna give him that chance just ignore him,start licking your wounds and a move on girl. You deserve better. Relationships are all about treating each other better,somethings are easier said than done. Telling you to just forget him like that,it aint gonnah happen and the babie will always remind you of him but if you just accept your fate fully and take that option of moving on despite him,then with time you will heal. Time is a master healer. The sooner you let go,and forgive him what he's done although forgiving doesnt neccesarily forgeting. In your case you wont forget cause you will be having his baby. But by forgiving him and completely let go of the anger and bitterness you do harbour inside you,you'll heal with time but failure to this wil only make him control your feelings like he's doing right now. Cause you are bitter and angry with him,theres no way you can be happy and be bitter and angry at the same time. So you have to let go of one if you are to be happy after all. At the end of the day the ultimate decission is yours girl,but i dont think you want to be miserable for the rest of your life.

Jay

@Jaheim,

Thanks for your sound advise


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new.member.

you need to go for a testr after months. gud luck though.

@newmember

Nice to hear you've weighed your options and you did whats best for you. There's no room for cheaters in a relationship. If he had multiple partners he surely was promiscous and you have really escaped a death trap cause if he were sick he would have infected you. The more reason you should not dare try to allow him anywhere between your legs even if you happen to allow him to see the baby.

Its also good to see most skerians have given advice,its something very nice cause its thought a problem shared is a problem halved. So anytime you need advice dont be afraid to holla jaheim82@gmail.com or even here at our post we shall help,only a fool knows everything. Some people may have been there done that and know the best way out hence shade some light,you dont have to suffer alone


Jay

@Roch & Gogeta

I started it,so i will do it till the end.Ideally,the reason why i had to go for test that early is because i have been so worry since since my fiance was not only double dealing between me and his ex but also with some other ladies which he admitted.I have been told that when one goes for antenals,they have to be tested for HIV.So this is just but the beginning,the war continues but i still hope that God of miracles has protected me,i know God is faithfull and able to protect those who are week like me.But if i later turn to be +ve,then what do i say,maybe that i was planned for to be infected by my first boyfriend after staying pure for 30years,if that is the case,i will just accept and continue living for the sake of my baby.Because i shall have known my status early enough,i can asure you i will live for more than 20year when my baby shall be through with his/her university education,AM NOT GONNA GIVE UP WHATEVER THE CASE and mostly when God has given me precious friend here in SK than really motivate me to a positive living



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@jaheim...... got hooked up or what?


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@lyra

Meant to say not yet

Jay

Finally,on 20th of Oct,i went for my first antenatal and the results were good.I still thank God though the thoughts about delivery is killing me.I still need God's mercies to continue.Am now in the second trimster.OMG!!! Its not easy.

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