understood!

Well said.

My simple question is, there are many men who request their wives to stop working to take care of their children until a certain age. In the process, this wife does not have any income and any investments done therefore will not have her direct contribution. So what happens in that case.

There are men who, by bad luck, loose their employment and during that period, only their wives are the bread winners, during this period, this man is not in a position to contribute directly for any investments in the family, what happens in future if they split?

There are situations where, the man gets a good job out of the country. Requests the wife, for the sake of the family unity to leave employment and join him in the new work station, at this period, this partner has no income she can directly contribute for investment. what happens if they split later?

A wife is working in bank and hence entitled to a favourable mortgage rate. the couple decides that the woman takes up the mortgage while the man takes up all other duties at home - understandably, the woman would be left with barely nothing after deductions. Since the contract is between her and the employer, there is no evidence that the man contributed into the purchase of the "matrimonial" home, which would be in the wife's name. What happens in case they later split?

Jibu tunalo hatuna?

This makes perfect sense. What one acquired before marriage, unless he/she willingly wants to share, then it is theirs. what they acquire later, is for the two of them. However, what if you'd acquired a plot before marriage at Kshs 50k. After many years, you sell off the plot at Kshs1 million and use that to buy a property where you build your matrimonial home during marriage. is this "your"(individual) property or would it be deemed to have been acquired together given that the property was bought during the marriage?

Lawyers have some work here. This thing is not black and white as we would love it to be.

That's the thing. people are just jumping up and down and these are the questions we need to be asking.... not getting all emotional about the whole thing. Anyone can own property and women these days are clinching well paying jobs and doing massive investments. Infact, if you ask many of these real estate sellers they'll tell you there are many many women buying these houses.... I think the point is to be objective and deal with real issues.

If laws are to be passed which concern families, they need to be done by very sober people.... i don't know if our parliament is that sober. this is not a battle between men and women. it should be a battle to maintain the least disruption to the family as much as possible, before, during and even after the marriage. It shouldnt create a situation where one party takes advantage of the other. For example, we have as many Mbuguas these days as we have young gals ready to reap where they did not saw. May be what you owned before marriage is yours, 50/50 for property acquired DURING marriage if marriage lasts 10+ years.... less than that, you take home what you have invested in.... something like that.