Read this.

The following questions were put together by Dr Phil McGraw when he was interviewing engaged couples that were cheating on their spouses-to-be. We added a few summary statements along with them. However the Seven Questions Dr Phil discussed could also be applicable for those who find out their spouses have committed infidelity. We hope you’ll prayerfully consider them as you think about reconciling because they could really help you in this type of situation:

An affair does not necessarily foretell the end of a relationship. Dr. Phil McGraw has seven questions to ask to determine if your cheating partner deserves a second chance.


1. Is this an isolated event or a pattern?

2. Does your partner own his bad behavior or make excuses for it?

3. Does he have insight into how he’s hurt you or is he oblivious?

4. Is he sorry for his choice or sorry he got caught?

5. Is he willing to clean up his act,or is he in denial?

6. Is this out of character or does he have an insensitive gene? (Marriage Missions Editors Note: By this question Dr Phil is asking if the family has a pattern of infidelity in it,because as he said,family patterns can sometimes manifest themselves in future behavior of the children that grow up in it.)

7. Is this a legacy or new behavior?


The previous seven questions you asked of your partner.

One major question you have to ask of yourself is: If you reinvested in this relationship and allowed yourself to trust,and your partner cheated,do you have the depth and strength to recover from it,or would you be emotionally bankrupt?

Dr. Phil says this final question is the deal-breaker. If you can confidently say that you would have the courage to recover,you can move forward in your relationship with a spirit of optimism.

You can get a lot of answers from www.marriagemissions.com


Jalofg

Achiever

I feel u,i was or am in the same situation. I had no choice but to walk away. Am giving myself time. About how i will spend the rest of my life,i really don't know. Am living every day at a time.

do all what u can to save it,but if nothing works...don't kill yaself.

Think about your peace of mind and safety. God's blessing brings no sorrow.




Envy is too much a burden to bear.

@marty

does this mean that its ok (bibilically) to remarry if divorved as a result of adultery?

@jalo

good piece......thanks.


don't worry....be happy

Achiever,

Lemmie also add that God hates divorce and He's clear on that,and if possible it is better to work on your marriage and try to salvage it,its quite some work but it needs the goodwill and participation of the two of u. I don't know whether u feel your marriage cannot be salvaged probably thru a lot of prayers and maybe involving professional counsellors.

..wise as a serpent,humble as a dove

eli

'When the wife is unfaithful?'

so what if its the husband?........i put up?




don't worry....be happy