my girlfriend is pregnant,am planning to visit her parents and compply with the customary requirements so that we can move in together b4 the baby is born,now i need wise men and women advice do i need to make an official marriage proposal to her?something like an engagement ring.

success or failure is like a seed plant any and put enough effort and you will definately harvest

@jmm - do it. Even though its a moot point,just do it all the same and not just assume that because of the pregnancy you have to get married. Its the honorable thing to do and sets a nice precedent for your life together - she will not wonder if you you married her because of the baby,but for her...meanwhile,its the thought that counts...do a simple ring so you can have security for when the child comes (and to buy some crates of beer for the old men when you go to tell them....)

The problem with equality is that we desire that it be with those that have more than us rather that those that have less

@ jmm

it all depends with you..

different men would approach this issue differently depending with their lifestyle,way they have been brought up (customs) and most importantly the way they perceive things...

as for me,i would consider legitimizing the r/ship in every aspect,i mean you got a product out of it and it is worthy doing things that will not only formalize things but also make all parties feel good or recognized...

since she is the one then i say give it to her...


When you run so fast to get somewhere,you miss the fun of getting there... Life is not a race,so take it slowly....

Boss. If you love the the mama and are committed to her. Kindly go ahead. If not save yourself a whole lot of grief in your life. Arrange how to provide for them.

Want to be a millionaire.... plant a million cabbages and sell them at a bob...

@Jmm

v Is the girl from Nyeri?

v If yes,you are in trouble

v If she is from elsewhere (Including Kisumu rural) sleep easy.

Strategy A

v Propose to her and give her an engagement ring

v We love the process of

§ He proposed

§ Gave me an engagement ring

§ Visited my parents

§ Asked for a wedding

§ Walked down the aisle

§ And we got the kid after we were officially married

§ He paid dowry accordingly

§ For the legitimacy of the children

§ Not buying me. etc

v Offer a goat at ‘The Hutch’ and invite SK members.

v After the goat,invite us to accompany you to the girl’s parents' home.

v We will pitch in with the little or plenty we can afford

Strategy B.

v Call your parents,friends etc

v Inform them of your predicament

v Ask them to sort you out

v ETC

Strategy C.

v Invite her for a 'come we stay'

v Hope you will organize yourself for a simple wedding as times goes on.

v Live with her for three years

v Discover she is not the greatest mother for your children as you intended her to be.

v Simply because there are no ties that bind

v Then destroy the innocent kids’ future

Strategy D

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v Remember the last thing this girl needs when she is pregnant is stress

v Be proud to be a Kenyan

Strategy E

v Sit down with pen and paper

v Ask yourself the following question

v 'If this was my daughter or sister,what would I have wished the man did?'

v Then act,dear brother,act.

Man,we girls are tender and loving humans,treat us as well.



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