If it happened to me,that he says he needs some permission to stray,it would probably be like this,after he explains himself........

Kanyambu:Dear,there is something that has been bothering me.
Hubby:What?
Kanyambu: I think it will make you mad.
Hubby (getting impatient): What?
Kanyambu: It is almost like what you just told me.
Hubby: GGGrrrrrr! What? You and another man?
Kanyambu: YEEEEESSSSS!
(And as i know our men,all hell would break lose).

But,why should i really bother running up and down to know whom he is with,chasing his phone when he's asleep?
i think that we women should live one day at a time,not worry whether our men stray or not,and work it out with him siku ile atapatikana.
Chasing after our hubbies is a difficult,time wasting game that hurts you,incase he is faithful,and much worse,it could break your relationship.

A male pal once told me,95 % of men are unfaithful,and 5% are faithful. I was silent for a moment,then answered,'i will treat ma hubby like a 5% until he proves to be a 95%. It has helped me a lot. Until the other lady shows up,let me enjoy my peace.

@kanyambu,i like your post

@Kanyambu si we get married?

@ Shak,thanks for the complement.
@ Swaleh,nishaolewa,and at least,i am enjoying my peace...........
@Motta,i am a very good girl!

U should see ma buddies who run after 'ghosts' They r sad and stressed. Why should i be sad before he strays,and be sadder after he strays?
And anyway,si lazima eti ni machali wote huhanya! na pia si lazima eti ma-dame hawahanyi!
Lol! This is a crazy world that we live in,and coz i wont be here forever,why cant i enjoy ma peace today?

@ RS
most men are in jail hence the current ratio of men:women

@ all never heard of a single mother die becoz she doesn't have a husband. if u truly know u are risking ur life due to a man's lack of self- control and self- respect hit the road beta safe than sorry - even with the kids jus agree on how he will help u out with the kids

Unfortunately this is the world we are in so be happy and play safe

mtaa do wat?

Isn't it shocking how we've allowed excuses in our lives to justify our failures.
How can you tell me that you dog because you're bored?? Aren't you part of creating the boredom? Would you disown your well established business because it's boring or would you create some excitement in it? I believe if you leave because you are bored you'll leave the next one too. Guys be creative and stop with the excuses!

ili iwe funzo...