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Rank: Veteran Joined: 6/23/2011 Posts: 1,740 Location: Nairobi
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Ever wondered why our grad fathers used to marry many wives.
One was for cheap labour, women use to dig, carry, cook etc. Then since these were laborers as the guy grew older he would marry a young girl who he believed would take care of him...Any social scientist to explain to us this phenomenon.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/1/2008 Posts: 834
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Proverbs 25:24 New International Version (NIV) 24 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. If you are going to be thinking only one thing, you might as well be thinking big. -Donald J . Trump
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/19/2012 Posts: 552
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 marex wrote:The thing is: Women are trying hard to catch up
Earn like a man
Rave like a man
Drink like a m
Be bosy like a man
Cheat like a man
Simply, Women have become men!!
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.... Leo Buscaglia
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/8/2007 Posts: 709
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As a man,you need to realize many of these women we have nowadays are not marriageable.they aren't wife material
Don't waste your time with them. Don't entertain them
All you need in this life is one woman.
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Rank: Member Joined: 3/19/2013 Posts: 344
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Ah! It sounds like the fault has been placed squarely on the woman's shoulders! The way I see it, there are many men who have a roving eye and will tend to always look for a "better" version of what they already have (younger/prettier/more successful ... or naive depending on the man). They take their partner for granted (and she become resentful). They might be sexually selfish (so she looks elsewhere for satisfaction).
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/11/2012 Posts: 5,222
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essyk wrote:@ big chick,at the old wazees meeting.  @ shak,ur stats below. Quote:Divorce cases filed at Milimani are drawn from Christian marriages. In 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004 and 2005, the number of divorce cases filed at Milimani were 101, 115, 206, 296 and 295 respectively. In 2007 and 2008, the numbers rose to 357 and 369.
Hundreds of couples are seeking legal advice, with some law firms handling as high as 26 cases, and others up to 50 cases, in a year
On average, the registrar of marriages at the Attorney General’s office records about 174 civil marriages in a month, basing on the statistics of January to May 2008, when they had 697 ceremonies and 925 from January to May, 2009.
Mukiriiiii!!  say something. Is pre nup a sin?? cz I fully support it. I'm no authority my dear.Gertrude Mungai suggest a 'sexual agreement' where you both write your expectations. I find it sad that people so much effort to read and study towards career progression and not put the same effort into marriage. @livie mentioned TD Jakes, there is 'Men are from Mars Women Venus'(and also the bedroom version by same author), 'Laugh your way to a better marriage' and most importantly 'The Bible'!
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/19/2012 Posts: 552
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Mukiri wrote:essyk wrote:@ big chick,at the old wazees meeting. @ shak,ur stats below. Quote:Divorce cases filed at Milimani are drawn from Christian marriages. In 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004 and 2005, the number of divorce cases filed at Milimani were 101, 115, 206, 296 and 295 respectively. In 2007 and 2008, the numbers rose to 357 and 369.
Hundreds of couples are seeking legal advice, with some law firms handling as high as 26 cases, and others up to 50 cases, in a year
On average, the registrar of marriages at the Attorney General’s office records about 174 civil marriages in a month, basing on the statistics of January to May 2008, when they had 697 ceremonies and 925 from January to May, 2009.
Mukiriiiii!! say something. Is pre nup a sin?? cz I fully support it. I'm no authority my dear.Gertrude Mungai suggest a 'sexual agreement' where you both write your expectations. I find it sad that people so much effort to read and study towards career progression and not put the same effort into marriage. @livie mentioned TD Jakes, there is 'Men are from Mars Women Venus'(and also the bedroom version by same author), 'Laugh your way to a better marriage' and most importantly 'The Bible'! @Mukiri, totally agree with you. If the man & woman,would put as much effort in their marriage as they put in their MBA's, their career progression etc and stop being selfish, then I guess we'd have fewer of these cases. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.... Leo Buscaglia
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Rank: Elder Joined: 2/22/2009 Posts: 2,449 Location: Africa
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Sansa wrote:Ah! It sounds like the fault has been placed squarely on the woman's shoulders! The way I see it, there are many men who have a roving eye and will tend to always look for a "better" version of what they already have (younger/prettier/more successful ... or naive depending on the man). They take their partner for granted (and she become resentful). They might be sexually selfish (so she looks elsewhere for satisfaction). Mine was not to blame the woman but to show that society has created a new breed of woman which the man is ill prepared to handle
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/15/2011 Posts: 4,518
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Shak wrote:
Mine was not to blame the woman but to show that society has created a new breed of sheman and hewoman who are ill prepared to handle each other
"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/9/2009 Posts: 6,592 Location: Nairobi
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Marriages are in crisis because nobody knows their role anymore. Women are not getting attention and men are not getting respect at home.
BBI will solve it :)
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