@mukiri: I should have after the first incident but I was in shock. If I had called them after the second one they might have hauled me to jail instead and of course there was pressure from his mother not to do so. I hear he went for some anger management sessions for a while but I don't know if they were of any help.

@kimiri: I can assure you that this was not a simple case of having a "bad mood" I have been in other relationships prior and post that one and know how to handle a normal disagreement or bad mood. Sometime during the happy times of our relationship I had said something about never going to bed angry and this man took that statement literally - according to him, we needed to resolve things before anyone slept or left and unfortunately for me there was nothing I could say or do that would please him, stop him or reason with him. I also didn't have my car and he had thrown my phone out and walking was out of question as he lived in a remote place.

I used to be one of those women who claimed that they'd do all kinds of things if they found themselves in that kind of a situation. Let me tell you that talking about it and experiencing it are two very different things. I have never shared this story with my friends and I am not sure if they were aware of what had happened. I have also never heard anyone speak of their experience mostly we hear other people saying what they would do or ask why someone didn't do abc and that is why I decided to share my story.

Asante - nimepoa. This was a few years ago so it's well in my past.

@gesowan, I couldn't comment on your thread here:

http://wazua.co.ke/forum...sts&t=24094&p=4



Ask your friend to watch this video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3DKGL4-Vfg

This story was on KTN yesterday.

Man stabbed his wife 4 times and left her for dead. She recovered. He then followed her from her bus stage on her way to work, poured petrol on her and lit her up. She recovered with horrendous deformities to her arms and face. Man got 10 years at Kamiti and he is soon to be released. I bet he's going to kill her this time round.

Speaking as a child who was raised in a family where my father routinely beat my mother, I am so glad you ended that relationship before it went further. I think my mother kept hoping it will end and it never did. And when children are born, somehow people rationalize staying in a bad marriage "for the sake of the kids"
I hope you get/are married to a man who treats you with respect. No woman should ever have to be beaten - it is that simple. There is no excuse whatsoever to beat a spouse. People forget what impact it has on children born in such marriage. It's daily fear, uncertainty, loathing the next incident (and knowing it will still happen) and wondering why your family can't be normal. You should be proud of yourself because you may just have spared your offspring many nights of desperation.
I am sorry for airing my issues here (on your thread) but I am just so glad that there is a woman, somewhere, who put a stop to it before it went further!