cuts both ways dude. i have also seen men who were jobless,had nothing. but the woman stood by him,some women even help their men get educated,start businesses,got them jobs.... and eventually he was empowered financially. then he starts madharau ndogo ndogo. i think what would be interesting would be to see the stats on this. are there more men who were sorted out by their women,than women who were sorted out by their men?? it would be very close....and i tend to lean towards more men being sorted out....

come slowly....

I'm not woman,but yes,yours are for both of you,and hers is hers.

I can tell you what happens.



First of all,it's your primary role as a man to provide for your woman,whether she works or not.

Provide for her maintenance and needs e.g. housing,clothing,food,physical needs etc.

Secondly,it's your other primary role to be head of your house.

You are responsible for her and everything in your family.

She's responsible you and your household.

If she works,you can ask her to help financially where she can.

But give her the pride of using her money to do her stuff e.g. hair,fancy clothing etc



Lastly and key,make sure you satisfy her emotionally and physically.

When you succeed in these two areas,the woman can do anything. I mean anything!

If you come short in this,then why would you expect respect from her?

@Alphadoti

Very well said...but sadly men just never seem to get it!

@Fundaah

I dont think it's really a matter of a woman suddenly having more cash than the guy,but just how much respect they both had for each other even before that. I know lots of women who earn more than their men but still the respect is intact.


Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't..

@Generali

Ooops...i guess i meant 'most men'......and of course the 'most' doesnt include the likes of you and Alphadoti...

Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't..

@Mukiha,
Well spoken.

Live hard,die hard.

@Alpha

Are you married? I am hawking my younger sis.... she could be lucky to be married to you.....

Some deals are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.

@Alpha,Wendz/Leona,

You mean we bribe our way into their pockets??......Wakae na hiyo pesa yao...!!!...am taking over the kitchen from her starting today ..........Atakula 'paraffin' mpaka agurume kama gari'.....Na wewe Alpha...wewe...!!...........Tunachunguza mambo yako....-:)



Guka wa bijuti...

@ Alphadoti

Your assertions are too simplistic. When you say provide for her,does this mean if you and wifey are earning 50K each,then you should spend all your money to support the family while she spends hers on her hair and nails?

Marriage is about supporting each other equitably,the partner with more money bears the heavier burden,and the one with more mental strength bears more emotional burden.


I guess if you can't win with facts,you can always pen bile-laced,xenophobic rants to distract everyone.

Outside interference - from any quarters,be they friends relatives and so on - can be the greatest threat to a marriage.

@Mlefu

You lost it kitambo.... huwesmek.... Wacha Alpha aongee.... am already shopping around for a nice venue.... wedding might even be this weekend... we are moving that fast....

@leona

this Alpha dude was on another thread... i think he is muslim and you know,they are allowed to marry 4 wives... aaai... my little sis hawesmek with him... what do you think?

Some deals are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.