HM,
How old was this guy wen the paroz passed on?
I hav heard of a similar case only that this guy wasnt abusing the mother-inlaw,but would always call her to tell her the petty mistakes her daughter was making,realised this guy also was brought up without a mum(she died wen he was 3-months),me thinks they dont know how to treat mothers if they dont hav any.
but yours clearly there is a problem,especially the part where he abuses her on text,it shows he doesnt hav respect for you and it follows that he doesnt hav respect for your mum and consequently your kid.
look at those couples whose parents dont accept their unions,they still respect them as parents even wen they dont like them as much.
if the guy thinks your mum is not good at child-rearing it follows that he thinks you are not good at it too.
if the guy has shown signs of being violent,please run while u can!!!!
As for raising the kid,assume theguy is dead,or he is there but jobless etc,wat would u do?take care of your kid,take her to a gud skul,make her your number one priority and u will reap nicely wen she grows up,let her access her father whenever,wherever,and also allow the dad to see her whenever wherever.if possible dont let her know how bad her father is,as far she is concerned,she is her father,period.
avoid badmouthing him infront of your daughter,it might work against u.
All the best.
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