For some reason, I was interested in McDoba's view on this issue and he has spoken.

what you said down there I agree with fully. You meet your mother the first time you come into this world, even before. But I highly doubt that the widow would completely neglect her mother in law. Besides the mother is mother to many so its more like contributing to the welfare of the elderly mother. What is the contribution of the other fully grown men who also call her mother?

In the proposal form for insurance, one usually indicates the dependants and even the percetage of the estate to be given to each should one die- this is like a will. Unless there are other kids, hii maneno ingine ni utamaduni duni - na ndio inarudisha watu nyuma.

Why can't people learn to respect the dead. If a man decides to marry a woman and stay with her, why should relatives force her out to go wherever when the man dies. Why didn't they convince the man (if they could) to send her away when he was still alive?

So as Mcreggae has put it, it is going to get dirty- my version of dirty is when grown men focus their primitive energy on fighting a widow when they should spend that energy doing something for themselves and their children. Just like in cases where fully grown men with beards wake up and go to the nearest 'maduka' to drink tea and mandazi, buy newspapers and discuss the politics (usually around one individual and what he thinks of everything) while their wives toil in the shamba and at the market and when its evening, they go home expecting to be served with kichwa ya samaki, meat stew or githeri with meat. Mind you when they are drinking the tea and mandazi, their wives and kids make do with sugarless uji for breakfast and kunde ugali for lunch. And when such men die, some other men cling around the homestead after the burial hovering around any wealth left behind and if not they would be dicussing on who should be allowed to hit on the widow's candy.

Mama Ojode deserves upkeep and care from the late Ojode’s household - that is not in debate!

We can estimate her monthly budgetary requirements to be around 50K or thereabouts given that she resides in the Countryside - barring emergencies and incidental costs such as medical bills etc.
Assuming this to be the case the kitty for her upkeep would need to be contributed to by all her Children shared equitably.

Taking it that she has 5 Children, the late Ojode’s wife obligation would be to avail Ksh 15K Monthly or thereabouts.

She may choose to give more (expected but not mandatory), though this is depended on various factors, not least how she is treated by her in-laws.

Mama Ojode should be advised not to let her other Children mislead her into antagonisng her departed Sons Wife along with Andy, her Grandson!

However, just as she deserves upkeep from Ojodes household, so does she have certain obligations towards them, chief among them recognition and not directing hostilities their way.

Wazuans both Male and Female; - How would you like your matter to be handled if, God forbid, you were to find yourself in Ojode’s situation!

unfortunately the drama has just started!! what i never understand is why a grown man/woman should start demanding part of his dead brothers/sisters estate why didn't they demand it while he was still alive.

heed the wise words of @marty and write a will

Asi!!! These politicians and shooting blanks!!!