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Shak
#1 Posted : Monday, July 02, 2012 7:07:58 PM
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What's up with these brothers of the deceased giving widows a hard time? Some of these retrogressive practices should be put to rest.

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alma
#2 Posted : Monday, July 02, 2012 7:30:31 PM
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This is bullshit.

The widow has a right to do as she pleases. Why don't men make a point of letting everyone know what they wish before the go? If you can't take the time to write a will at least do something to make it clear on who's supposed to get something.

When the brother says dependants,do these include the brother's wives and kids? Or is there a gashungwa they had on the sideline.

Why is it always the mother of these guys who bring kasheshe yote.

Mrs. Ojode, kula hiyo mali ya mzee. Washana na ware ware.
Jose: If I make it through this thug life, I'll see you one day. The Lord is the only way to stop the hurt.
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essyk
#3 Posted : Monday, July 02, 2012 9:19:01 PM
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NKTEEEEEEEEEST.

Primitive energy at its best!!

"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
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Mastermind
#4 Posted : Monday, July 02, 2012 10:57:05 PM
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They wrote the letter to Marende as who?
If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
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essyk
#5 Posted : Monday, July 02, 2012 11:07:01 PM
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Dependants Sad Pray

Quote:
Mr Awuodi said he’d written the letter on behalf of his mother, Mrs Ulda Aloo Ojode “and other dependants”, with whom the deceased’s widow had “totally refused to discuss or cooperate with on matters relating to the deceased’s estate”.



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“This is to request you to stop any payment of any compensation or death benefits to the widow or any other party until matters relating to the administration of the (the late Ojode’s) estate are resolved,



*yawn*
"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
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Mastermind
#6 Posted : Monday, July 02, 2012 11:38:28 PM
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A letter worth not replying to.
If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
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Wendz
#7 Posted : Tuesday, July 03, 2012 8:27:36 AM
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Reeeeaaaaally? Ojode's mom was not his sole responsibility... kwani these brothers who are writing, they cant take care of their mother if Ojode is not there? What if Ojode died a poor man? Saitoti had a mother and other dependants too and we aren't hearing all this nonsense... In any case, when the body was taken for burial, didn't some of those extended family members start drama and said they do not recognise her? how now have they started recognising she was his wife? They arent even considering that he might have had loans and debts that needed clearing before anything else can be shared to anyone? Ama hiyo ni mzigo ya mama na watoto wake?

This sort of "dependency syndrome" is not healthy for any society.... Even when you are being helped, you need know that it is a 'favour'.... its not a right... the only people who have a right are the nuclear family and possibly, being Africans, the parents.... Anybody else, funga mshipi utafute yako.
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Spend.thrift
#8 Posted : Tuesday, July 03, 2012 8:39:42 AM
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Wendz wrote:
Reeeeaaaaally? Ojode's mom was not his sole responsibility... kwani these brothers who are writing, they cant take care of their mother if Ojode is not there? What if Ojode died a poor man? Saitoti had a mother and other dependants too and we aren't hearing all this nonsense... In any case, when the body was taken for burial, didn't some of those extended family members start drama and said they do not recognise her? how now have they started recognising she was his wife? They arent even considering that he might have had loans and debts that needed clearing before anything else can be shared to anyone? Ama hiyo ni mzigo ya mama na watoto wake?

This sort of "dependency syndrome" is not healthy for any society.... Even when you are being helped, you need know that it is a 'favour'.... its not a right... the only people who have a right are the nuclear family and possibly, being Africans, the parents.... Anybody else, funga mshipi utafute yako.



Well spoken Wendz. Dependency is too high. You get a fully grown man or woman who has completed college or university insisting on staying with their married brother or sister and all the time staying at home all day like she or he is on holiday and being fed, washed for e.t.c like the married couples 2 year old. Hata kama kazi haipatikani haraka, you better sell airtime or push carts in the meantime to earn some dignity. How does the wife of this brother feel when she hears her husband crying over another woman's (widow)domain.
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Elder
#9 Posted : Tuesday, July 03, 2012 8:47:46 AM
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Underneath all the noise and personal indiginations expressed here there is actually nothing wrong with what they have done. Contrary to what some might think here Ojode's widow is not the sole beneficiary of his estate. The mother if she was his dependant would be one. So would be any other child he might have had out of wedlock. And so would be the 'known' son.The proceeds of a deceased estate ought to be shared among all his dependants. Who those dependants are and their respective shares can only be established by probate.

On the payment of insurance covers that would of course depend on the terms, which we mostly have no clue.
He who can express in words the ardour of his love, has but little love to express. - Petrach, Son. (That men by various ways arrive at the same end. - Montaigne, The Essays of.)
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McReggae
#10 Posted : Tuesday, July 03, 2012 9:01:14 AM
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This is going to get very dirty......at some point she will be told to go to Andy's real father.......expect fireworks!!!

.....If anybody can prove (even if not a relative) that their livelihood depended on you then they have a right to your estate, that is the law!!!

Ojode should have written a will!!!

You meet your mother the 1st time you get into this world!!!!
..."Wewe ni mtu mdogo sana....na mwenye amekuandika pia ni mtu mdogo sana!".
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