mkeiyd wrote:rock wrote:Since there's a wedding vibe goin round today let me seek your advice lest i mislead someone. I am soon to be the best man in my pals wedding and find myself somewhat in a dilemma.His fiancee is expecting in a few mths time and they are hurriedly planning a wedding before then..the dude is in biz and comes from a well to do family and the girl had previously claimed to be of the same social status and had even lied that her parents live in an upper class neighborhood but turns out they stay in eastlands. She also works together with her family and claims to be earning good cash but is broke most of the time.The truth came out when he made the first visit to the parents hse and her excuse was that the upmarket hse was auctioned early this year due to a huge unpaid business loan and she was too embarrassed to tell people and that most of her monthly income is used to pay off another loan the parents took. What i can confirm to be true is the ladys involvement in the family biz. I've adviced the guy to stall the negotiations and reconsider a long-term relationship with this girl since she cant be fully trusted..what else is she capable of lying about?! He claims that he doesnt care about her parents financial status and that its not a big deal but to me thats besides the point. Fact is she's a big fat liar!
@ rock, If it's about your friend,why does it seem to bother you, more than it does to him?
To answer your dilemma, marriage has nothing to do with parents nor money. It's about love.
Love cannot be founded on lies.
@mkeyid..what are real and genuine friends for,if my friend cant try and correct me when am doing something wrong then whats the point of him or her even being there in the first place.
@Rock...I agree with you,being honest and open in any relationship is key if that doesnt exist and something comes out of the bag later,feelings tend to change,the guy will always have questions in his head every single day.
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