Its terrible. If you can avoid it,please do. If the situation does not allow,call regularly and spend every minute with the family whenever you can.

Had a similar experience the first seven months of this year. Though Mama Watoto was understanding,the Kids couldnt take it. There was a clear psychological toll on them which eventually got to me. My four year old even started bed wetting and was always asking when I will stop going to work. It (the bed wetting) stopped immeadiately I came back home. Like several other guys here,I spent most of my childhood away from my Dad and turned out okey but apparently times have changed.

Wish you all the luck.


IGANA.

@ 100 ma100,,,,

what does bed wetting got to do with missing daddy??? just curious.....

Its just me
whatever choice you make in life make sure that you can live with it.

@ ericks

and who knows...

may be 100ma100 also did wet in his days...

When you run so fast to get somewhere,you miss the fun of getting there... Life is not a race,so take it slowly....

@ Ericks; We suspected psychological effects of my absence.

@ Kamaa; Stop speculating. I confirm I did. Happy? I just hope that you will not find yourself in such a situation. Shindwe.



IGANA.

ati 'THE WENDZ SHOW.....sponsored by RICHOT Brandy' lol

Every day I pray and ask God to touch my work and make it a big success...but then I ask Him to protect me and my family from that success.....I dread the thought that my work could take me away from my family

On a few occasions I have had to go and do some work out of town for a day,spending one night out. It feels like a year has passed. I'm scheduled to do such an assignment in Mombasa later this month. This time I'm planning to take my wife along....and NO,this is not the 10th anniversary celebration!!

A few years ago I was working in Nakuru while the family was in Nairobi. Luckily the nature of the work was that I only needed to spend one night in Nakuru each week. Did that for about 18 months and it was quite stressful...both in terms of physical fatigue due to the frequent travels and emotionally

Behind the gardens...Behind the wall...Under the tree (Including: Red...Dark Blue...Yellow)

Few things I can advice:

1. Set your own objcetives. You are staying away from family because of the money...Evaluate whether it is worthy it. How much are you making and what use are you putting the cash to?

2. Give yourself a timeframe. How much you gonna be away and agree on this with your partner. This can always be reviewed based on how things move.

3. What are the rewards of your absence? Give your spouse a project to work on while you are away.

4. Discuss whether it is possible to stay away from each other for that specified period of time. If both of you are the type that can't stay without IT sleeping inside,this thing is not for you...

5. Communicate often...every day if possible...

6. Whenever you come home spoil your partner and kids. Chafua wao kabisa so that memories will linger on till the next homecoming.

...brother join me....

I lost out on a guy i loved so much because of the distance,at times i think i should have sacrificed my career for him.
Where possible avoid living apart,especially if u have kids,ask God for guidance and all will be well.
Might look at the money that comes with a new job say abroad,but the downside of it is so enormous,and the only time you can spend with your kids is when they are young,and this determines the kind of relationship you will have with them when they are grown up. At times they might recent the fact that you were never their for them-money doesnt cover for the gaps created emotionally.

The real measure of your wealth is how much you'd be worth if you lost all your money. ~Author Unknown

As i said,i have had that experience as a child and it never affected the way i relate now or then with my dad. Your biggest worry wouldnt even be kids,your relationship with the kids will not be very affected as long as you put in time to create that bonding with them through frequent communication and creating time when you visit (as long as its not twice a year),problem would be your relationship with your wife... As long as your wife is ok with it,you have her support (coz it has to be both ways for it to work) and you make the effort of not being separated for a long time,you should be fine. I know many people who have great relationships with their families (infact even better than some of those where we have both parents under one roof fighting every other night) so it can be done.

@CLK
pole gal. there is always a second chance. have no regrets coz if its done,its done. Enjoy your life today and the rest will fall in place.

sometimes its hard to sacrifice and join him... for instance,imagine you have young kids and your husband gets a job at the UN and is sent to Somalia for the next 4 years? you supposed to move there and start playing hide and seek with bullets? dodging the bullets behind a pile of sand or a collapsed building when picking your kid from school? ehehehe... how much fun?

@ magigi has a good point there.

Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.

@Skodhe;

....You want to put your family on the firing line...!!! But kutembea ni kujua mengi...