blackcobra wrote:Sometimes i am tempted to give my boss a piece of my mind.... or give her a smack on her face.
This is someone who enjoys belittling me in front of everyone... maybe to show that i am her project.
I approach her when i was in another department and requested that we start a new department .. n since she s influential in the organization, she moved with zeal and within no time the department had been established.
Now it looks like i have to lick her boots the rest of my life.
She keeps reminding me that i will be transferred, or taken back to where i was... yet she cant proof why.
God..... im breaking now!!! Some advises from wazuas?
Can any of these be helpful ….?
The 48 Laws of Power
Law 21
Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark
No one likes feeling stupider than the next person. The trick is to make your victim feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are. Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives
Law 22
Use the Surrender tactic: Transform weakness into power
When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead. Surrender gives you time to recover, time to toment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you –surrender first. By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.
Law 26
Keep your Hands Clean.
You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency; your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cats’s –pawns to disguise your involvement.
Law 30.
Make you accomplishments seem effortless
Your actions must seam effortless and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptations of revealing how hard you work- it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.
Law 31
Control the options: Get others to play with the cards you deal.
The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice. Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they chose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of the two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of your dilemma; they are gored wherever they turn.
Law 33
Discover each Man's Thumbscrew
Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usually an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be small secret pleasure. Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.
Law 35
Master the art of timing
Never seem to be in hurry- hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and overtime, always seem inpatient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Became a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trend that will carry you top power. Learn to stand back when time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.
Law 36
Disdain things you cannot have; ignoring them is the best revenge
By acknowledging petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy the stronger you make him, and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It’s sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but you cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.
Law 38
Think as you like but behave like others
If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness
Law 40
Despise the free lunch
What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign of magnet power.
Law 41
Avoid stepping into great man’s shoes
What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their shadow , or stuck in past not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.
Law 44
Disarm and infuriate with mirror effect
The mirror effect reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: when you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The mirror effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding mirror on their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of mirror effect.
Law 45
Preach the need for change, but never reform too much at once.
Everyone …….
Law 46
Never appear too perfect
Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weakness. Envy creates silent enemies. Its smart to occasionally display defects, an admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.
Law 47
Do not go past the mark you aimed for; in victory, learn when to stop.
The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril. In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow success go to your head. There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.
Law 48
Assume Formlessness
By taking shape, by having visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed . the best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.