You are quite right on that one... it is the potential to give that security to the family. Women, instinctively, can tell a guy who has potential unless one just wants a dude to show up... this security is very different. some will go for the "physical" security - eg, if the guy can push shoulders around - like the "bad boys" others, it is the "security" for her children - good education, inheritance, food security, physical appearance, intelligence etc... Even some animals do the same..... Some female animals will reject a male intending to sire offsprings if it is or is seen to be weak and cant pass some "basic" tests.... Having said that, let me say, we also have our sisters who have taken this 'security' to another new level.... @kenyanl has said it well, it is exactly the same with men.... hips are a sign of "motherliness/fulness of fertility" or something like that.... so, there you have it...

.... of course who would want to marry a poor man? Come on people, I won't even want my daughter to marry a poor man, period. However people shouldn't look at the family but the individual but again if you have an entire clan to take care of then that is a problem!

My, my, my. Amothi, my man, look what you went and started. Looks like you were onto a winner after all. No insults, no vulgarity, just straight talk. Perhaps it is, indeed, time for your second installment. Let it rip. Again, welcome to the Virtual Republic of Wazua.

Lookin at this from a man point of view Its NO two way about it ( atleast for me). i need somebody who can support me ( or the family) when things get thick ....last thing is an chick staying at home doing allot ati she's my wife..