Kwani that Nigerian pastor at KICC was a fraud? Who would have even thought it so?

Sasa, nani anasema hakuna watu wa kuoa na kuoana? si another dude posted his "relationship business" for "mix n' match" right here and no one responded?

The problem is not getting men to marry (in the general sense of it), the problem is getting the kind of men that these women want. Although i must say it is inborn, women look for security in a man.... unfortunately, the security these days is material. A woman will turn down a marriage offer from a genuine guy if she feels she will be worse off than she already is... eg, a man who has a small 3 bedroomed house in mlolongo if she owns an apartment in kileleshwa/lavington etc or he drives a toyota 91 and she is driving a passat... The other problem also is, even if the lady is willing, the man feels intimidated and will start wondering 'what' the lady saw in him and 'she' is better off by herself. Many men wil marry a woman where he feels the 'hero'.... if he feels any inferior, he aint there... That said, it doesnt mean that relationships dont work where a woman earns more or is on top of her career life, no... they do but only with "strong" men who can pull it through and a woman humble enough to let him be.

you talk of career ruining it all? kuna men they can not even date a women mwenye doesnt have a nice job leave alone getting married..... ati she is lazy mara hana mwelekeo. now if she has Good a job, career and... name it wanasema she is a career woman men are scared of her. now i ask myself so which way to go?
really confusing.

@Wendz, well put.
Let me add by saying there are success stories out there of men who support and encourage their more ambitious wives. These are men whose wives earn more than them, may drive better cars than them, hold serious positions than these men. But they acknowledge this and go ahead to support their wives. The wife on the other hand treats the man like the head of the house. Like the Otero or Starring Terente. Think of this; there's Queen Elizabeth and Prince Phillip.

Wanaume wako. Good men. Irrespective of your personality or your achievements. If women focus on material things, then too bad. Materials things come and go.

How is she worse off?

Si atahamia mlolongo na amezoea kukaa kileleshwa. mlolongo na kileleshwa/lavington sio sawa..... ala! In any case, majority of the guys would rather the woman moves into the guys house and not the vice versa.... Personally, i see that as the order of the day (typical african), unless aseme nilimuoa ahamie kwangu(what's the smiley for "wink")

My wife says that its not that there are no men. The men are there. The ladies just want ready made men. They want the well dressed, sharp-suited man, driving a nice car, living in a good neighbourhood, nice job.. e.t.c. They define these as standards to be met before they marry them.

For you to get a good man, you must be ready to sharpen him to be the man you want to marry, most ladies are not ready to do this. They want security, they dont see a guy with potential to provide that security in the next few months/years.

Getting a man requires fundamental analysis, not speculation. Moreso.. if you are going to be a shareholder/manager/employee/director of that man.

Disclaimer: I am talking about a man to marry. And not all ladies are like that, there are a few exceptions.

I am a good man. My wife found me.

Getting a woman too requires fundamental analysis, right?